March 19, 200521 yr Maybe this is an old subject.... But what do guys think the cause of these actions (or planned actions) are? It obviously could be more than one...if so, what do you think is the biggest factor? What can be done to combat this?
March 20, 200521 yr It's been 2 days, and no reply to this of any kind from KipWellsFan. He must be sick or something.
March 20, 200521 yr QUOTE(IlliniKrush @ Mar 19, 2005 -> 04:29 AM) Maybe this is an old subject.... But what do guys think the cause of these actions (or planned actions) are? It obviously could be more than one...if so, what do you think is the biggest factor? What can be done to combat this? Parents who don't really give a s*** about the kid's personal development (either being apathetic or just trying to force them to work their ass off to get a job that will make them a ton of money), the idea that has permeated (Western especially) society where buying = loving instead of spending time together as a family, lack of understanding from parents, difficulties fitting in at school (environment fit theory) sprinkled in with intense personal feelings of inadequateness, sociopathic tendencies, etc.
March 20, 200521 yr You know, there are a lot of people here that are quick to criticize parents and don't have a clue about what being a parent entails. I'm not picking on you, LCR, despite the fact that my post immediately follows yours. Being a parent is difficult. Kids do not come with an "owner's manual" or "operating instructions". It's a trial and error thing. You learn as you go. You make mistakes. You learn from your mistakes and try again. The best thing a parent can say is that after raising a child they can look in a mirror and be able to say "I did what I thought was the best thing in every situation".
March 20, 200521 yr I agree, Yas, that parenting is difficult. But it seems to me that a lot of parents are too unwilling to take a lot of responsibility for aspects of raising their kids. My parents made a lot of mistakes with my sister and I--but they always knew who we were with, what we were listening to, what movies we liked, and all of our friends and some of their parents. I know that couldn't have been easy since they both work at least full time. But they both went out of their way to keep active in our lives. I always thought they were really meddlesome and irritating and I tried pretty hard to them at bay in high school--but they (my dad especially) kept tabs on both of us. And, as a result I think I turned out pretty well--and I'm a lot closer to my dad now than a lot of my friends who had "hands off" parents. I think nowadays it's so much easier to just buy a kid a car than spend a Saturday afternoon at a ballgame and ice-cream afterwards or going to their play/concert/whatever instead of working overtime. I always hear about tv being a babysitter--but I really think now that money has become a babysitter/parent. I think that's a really disturbing trend.
March 20, 200521 yr QUOTE(ChiSoxyGirl @ Mar 20, 2005 -> 01:53 PM) I agree, Yas, that parenting is difficult. But it seems to me that a lot of parents are too unwilling to take a lot of responsibility for aspects of raising their kids. My parents made a lot of mistakes with my sister and I--but they always knew who we were with, what we were listening to, what movies we liked, and all of our friends and some of their parents. I know that couldn't have been easy since they both work at least full time. But they both went out of their way to keep active in our lives. I always thought they were really meddlesome and irritating and I tried pretty hard to them at bay in high school--but they (my dad especially) kept tabs on both of us. And, as a result I think I turned out pretty well--and I'm a lot closer to my dad now than a lot of my friends who had "hands off" parents. I think nowadays it's so much easier to just buy a kid a car than spend a Saturday afternoon at a ballgame and ice-cream afterwards or going to their play/concert/whatever instead of working overtime. I always hear about tv being a babysitter--but I really think now that money has become a babysitter/parent. I think that's a really disturbing trend. I agree with everything you say here. The best investment a parent can make is time. No ifs, ands or buts about it.
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