BrenBlackwood

QUOTE (Balta1701 @ Aug 4, 2010 -> 10:05 AM) Does she have a phone number on her facebook page? OMIGOSH!! DO NOT lurk her page for her number! I have had someone do that to me before and he's now one of my "blocked listers" lol ..Just wait ..you don't wanna seem too into her, or she will get bored with you. If you know for sure that you'll be seeing her again, just be patient and act cool about it.

QUOTE (knightni @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 01:09 PM) The Bulls have done them in the past. You, my friend, are freaking hilarious!!!! BAAHAHAHA

QUOTE (Milkman delivers @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 02:12 PM) Backdoor? It works. If you're willing to throw another person into the equation ...I don't see why you wouldn't try the "backdoor" first! hahaha

QUOTE (iamshack @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:45 PM) Don't do it. It's not worth it. People always think they can handle this s*** and they never can. I'm with ya on this one! It's hard to say how you would feel about something like this until it's happening and by that point, should it make you ill, it's already too late to take back. Also, it often times leads to affairs and what not ..it's just not a good place to go once you're married. When you're single ..GO FOR IT ..but once you're married (or really serious) it's time to hang up the whole 3some fantasy!

QUOTE (Athomeboy_2000 @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:42 PM) LOL! SHe was far from bored at the moment I don't know the details of your guys' sex life or what not ...but maybe you should try other ways to "spice it up" before you go that extreme ..I'd hate to see something happen to a perfectly good marriage for the sake of the bedroom activity. You don't want something to happen that neither of you can take back or get over. And may I ask you a personal question? I mean ..you did bring up your sex life on Soxtalk so it's really not that personal considering!! LOL You say you would minimal contact with the other woman ...why not just sit back and watch your wife and this other woman? Minimal contact is still a big deal ...could you let another man slap your wife on the ass while she was ..uhhh ...doing stuff with you?! That's pretty minimal and I'm betting you would probably break the guys hand! lol

QUOTE (Athomeboy_2000 @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:39 PM) I think, at this point, I'm not disclose how this came up. But if you REALLY want a hint, let's just say i was already rather elated at the moment. It came up during sex?!?! Maybe you bore her!! hahaha OMG I was so just kidding!!

QUOTE (Athomeboy_2000 @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:35 PM) Well, that's part of the reason I agreed I would have "minimal" contact as I think we both would get jelous if we were interacting too much with someone of the opposite sex. Yea, see the "pick up" part is an issue for her. She doesn't really want a stranger (I pitched the idea of looking online), but she's pretty sure none of our friends would be interested and even if one was it would be just a little too awkward. I have ONE friend who MIGHT have been interested, but she has since moved away and her and I have a "history" that I KNOW wouldnt work for my wife. Minimal or not ...I would destroy him! lol ...He's mine and I refuse to share!! I don't know how to do that either ..I've always known girls who were down for whatever ..I could let you borrow some of my friends if you'd like?! haha

QUOTE (Athomeboy_2000 @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:27 PM) yea, i know. I said I would feel a little weird if another guy was involved and she would feel weird if I was with another woman, so I agreed I would have "minimal" interaction with the other woman. It's an interesting situation. Not even sure how to FIND someone else. I would never be able to do it ...Just the thought of Chase touching another woman makes me want to deliver a roundhouse kick directly to his chest! hahaha I know people that do it ..they just go to the local gay bars and pick up a woman who's down to get down ..so to speak! lol

QUOTE (Athomeboy_2000 @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:22 PM) well, a person... we agreed later that IF it EVER happened it would be another woman, yes. That is dangerous!! IF you guys should ever do it ...BE CAREFUL! Sometimes things like that can be like opening Pandora's box! I know a couple that tried it ...DID NOT work out so well!! haha

QUOTE (Athomeboy_2000 @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:20 PM) ohh.... ok... um..... well..... let's just say she said the words and my jaw hit the floor.... "threesome" OOOHHHH juicy!!! She want to add another woman to the mix?!

QUOTE (Athomeboy_2000 @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:16 PM) oh.... umm... I dont think i can just come out and say it. hmmm... guess. She's tired of living a lie and thought you should know that she was born a man?! IDK ..spill it!! LOL

QUOTE (Athomeboy_2000 @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:11 PM) so.... ummm... hmm.... I have something, rather, ummm.... interesting to talk about. not sure I want to though. It involves something my wife said the other night. DOOOO ITT!!

QUOTE (Balta1701 @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:11 PM) So that's why you blocked me. OHHH CRAP ...I forgot you could see this!!

QUOTE (Jordan4life @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:11 PM) I feel the need to contribute to this stimulating conversation. Will I get married one day? Sure. When? I'm thinking 3.6 seconds before I drop dead. /my contribution Determined to die happy, huh?! haha

QUOTE (iamshack @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 12:09 PM) Oh Bren...you are something else... I can't help it ..I promise my mother did not do drugs while she was pregnant ..or ever for that matter. I really have no excuse, sad to say! hahaha

Back to the whole attraction thing ..I think it's very important to be attracted to your partner immediately ...other wise when I get bored or they piss me off, if I'm not attracted and their personality was the only thing keeping me around, I'm out! SEE YA!! ...With Chase, he can piss me off and annoy the piss out of me every day of the week if he wanted to ..I would take one look at him and forget all about it ...then I would take advantage of him ..then we wouldn't be arguing anymore and it's all good. If it was someone I wasn't just incredibly attracted to ..I would get annoyed or pissed and one look at them would make me completely disgusted ..I say hurtful things ..and then I tell them to get out of my life and ignore all phone calls and texts and block them on facebook! haha ..yes, being blocked on facebook is like the ultimate "I don't like you, you gross me out" move for me!

QUOTE (iamshack @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 11:42 AM) Let me make clear that I do not have anything against people who get married. What pisses me off is the married people who look down their nose at unmarried people. And let's make another thing clear, the latter happens a hell of a lot more than the former. Those people piss me off too ..you know they have more problems than anyone.

QUOTE (Chisoxfn @ Aug 3, 2010 -> 11:15 AM) So what, that doesn't mean if two people want to they shouldn't go get married. Obviously I have my intents and who knows what will happen but I got married because I plan on being with the same person the rest of my life. I know when push comes to shove, she'll be there for me and I'll be there for her. And just because someone made a mistake or stuff happens and some people get divorced doesn't make marriage any less significant to me as an individual. I could care less if someone doesn't want to get married, but to me, marriage means a hell of a lot more than a contract. It means an eternal commitment. That's the point I was trying to make! That's what it means to me, and was supposed to mean to everyone when they make that commitment, but people have twisted it all up.

QUOTE (BigSqwert @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 06:40 PM) There's a whole segment of the population that isn't allowed to but that's another story. Yes yes, this is true. But I'm sure they would love to do it if they could. (not all of them obviously)

QUOTE (Controlled Chaos @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 06:27 PM) Bren you're not alone. I believe in marriage. No need to try and convince those that aren't though. To each their own. Thank you ...I know everyone is entitled to their opinions and beliefs ..I was just putting mine out there!! No point in keeping them to myself ..I like to share!

QUOTE (iamshack @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 06:28 PM) I'm not necessarily saying I don't "believe" in it. I was just hoping to stimulate some thought-provoking discussion. Well, how's this for "thought-provoking" ...I just voted for the new free credit report band!! BAAHAHAHA ...I am bored out of my face and the commercial came on and I just couldn't resist! ....Also, I just got off of the phone with Chase and I'm officially in love with the Chicago White Sox. Great people behind the scenes.

QUOTE (G&T @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 06:24 PM) This is a fun thread for those of us about to get married. HAHAHAHA I was wondering if I was the only one about to take the plunge that was reading this!!!

QUOTE (iamshack @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 06:15 PM) Let me put it to you this way, Bren. Say Chase said he didn't believe in marriage, because he was raised not to (or because he believed he would turn into a smurf if he got married, it doesn't matter). But he still wanted to spend his life with you. Would you not be with him because he didn't want to get married? Would your relationship with him mean any less to you? Absolutely not. I love Chase with every fiber of my being, I would be with him as long as he was faithful to me and still treated me the way he does now. I was never saying you have to be married to be happy with someone ..I was just saying that if you really love that person I don't see why you wouldn't marry them. I would turn into a smurf for Chase ...smurfette is completely adorable!

QUOTE (Milkman delivers @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 06:03 PM) See, that's what I'm saying. You have no way of knowing that at all, and the odds are that a whole lot of people thought that before they got married. And it's not like I don't believe in marriage. It works for some people and it doesn't for others. I don't know a thing about it. But that's them, not me. I put my mind and heart into something and I don't give up ...that's just me! I went from a straight up, party animal, drink every night of the week, Jager queen type of girl ..to someone who hasn't touched a drop of Jager in 5 1/2 months, just to make him comfortable and to ensure that this would work with him being so far away. It was no problem for me at all.

QUOTE (Milkman delivers @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 05:19 PM) Come back here in a few years and we'll see. I don't mean that to be a jerk, but how many people do you think came before you and said the same thing only to get divorced? HAHAHA you don't know anything about me or Chase. If you spent a week with us, you would see where I was coming from! I am not one of those people that think it's right for everyone, I do know how I am and how I feel though. I come from a broken family, Chase's parents have been married for 28 years and only dated for 5 months before they tied the knot and they get along better than most couples I know ...that goes back to, when you know, ya know!! I won't be "coming back" in a few years ...I will still be here in a few years and you guys will see! I'm sure a lot of people have said the same thing, but those people weren't as dedicated as I'm willing/going to be. I fought with all I had to keep a relationship together that wasn't worth s*** ..Chase treats me like I'm God's gift to him so I don't see me ever finding anything better. Why would I trade down? And if he should some day decide that he doesn't want to be with me (never going to happen) ..I will stalk him!! LOL JUST KIDDING ...kind of! I don't care if you guys believe in marriage or if you don't ...I do and I'm happy so whatever your preference, if that's what tickles your pickle, great for you! Now ..I would like to karate chop the guy who even brought this subject up right in the ear!