BrenBlackwood

QUOTE (iamshack @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 03:03 PM) Let me ask you this, Bren...yes, divorce was frowned upon, but the same problems we have now still existed then. People just didn't talk about them as openly because it was a social stigma to be divorced. So if we're admitting that the same bad symptoms still existed, only that the overall problem wasn't dealt with because of a social stigma, is that really any better? Again, should you really put yourselves through the really bad times in the name of marriage? Is a legal title really worth being unhappy over? What is wrong with human beings not staying with a partner for their entire lives? What about that is fundamentally wrong? You're arguing that people should "stick it out" for the sake of upholding some tradition and a legal title. Maybe, just maybe, that tradition is foolish? Maybe that legal title is silly, if you have to be unhappy for any significant amount of time to uphold it. Is this a challenge of who can put up with the most unhappiness in the name of refusing to admit they made a poor decision in the past? It just makes so little sense to me...it seems like going through a whole lot of trouble for something so unimportant...wouldn't it be much easier to just throw out the silly tradition and be with a partner for as long as you want to be with them? And then when you no longer do, then you leave? Why is that inherently bad? If there are problems that are so horrible that you need to get a divorce over them, more than likely they existed before the marriage and should have been dealt with way before they even considered the thought of marriage. That's what I mean when I say people don't take it seriously ...I have been in bad relationships, ok relationships and relationships that I thought were good ...I have been proposed to more than once, but never felt that it would work with anyone except Chase. It didn't mean that I didn't want to be with those people at that time, just that I didn't see it lasting forever. I didn't say "ok, yeah I'll marry you" just because I was happy at the time and hoped it would last ..I want long term happiness and with them I just didn't see it going that far. I have zero reservations about marrying Chase because I know how we are together, I know how happy I am when I'm with him and there's not a place we go that people around us don't see it too. I know him well enough to know that nothing we encounter is going to be enough to make me want to break my commitment to him. Basically.. I believe, when you know, ya know. I don't believe that everyone that gets married enters into it with as much confidence as you should have when making that commitment ..that's why people get divorced. I couldn't tell you how many divorced couples I know that say "I knew from the beginning, blah blah blah" ..IF YOU KNEW, WHY DID YOU DO IT?!?!? The answer is always the same ..."I hoped he/she would change." I would never commit my life to someone in hopes of anything.

QUOTE (iamshack @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 02:57 PM) Everyone who gets married thinks they are going to spend their life with someone though...the problem is, people are usually wrong... That's not true at all. My kids' dad cheated on me with the daycare teacher 2 1/2 years ago ..they just had their first child and got married in April ...she is miserable and knew before she got married to him that it probably would not work out. She did it for the baby! I believe you have to have better reasons to make that kind of commitment to someone. He cheats on her all the time and she just deals with it ...stupid decision on her part IMO, but it's whatever. If they get divorced neither of them OR anyone else will be shocked by it. You can tell when people actually, really, truly love each other ..with them, I hate to say it, but it's just not there. Never should have married.

QUOTE (BigSqwert @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 02:52 PM) I don't know if that's right but back then divorce was frowned upon and a wife getting beaten on a daily basis felt forced to stick through the marriage. I don't believe in divorce, but that doesn't mean that I don't think you should know your partner well enough to know what you'll be living with for the rest of your life! If she's getting beat after marriage, chances are it started wayyy before they tied the knot!

QUOTE (FlaSoxxJim @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 02:52 PM) it's about way more than tax benefits. Legal status as parents, legal enttlement to insurance coverage, inheritance, alimony, the ability to cosign on loans, family rights in end of life decisions, etc., and the list goes on. THANK YOU! One of the points I already tried to make!

QUOTE (bigruss22 @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 02:49 PM) I dont have the data to back it up but past generations seemed to get married before 25 quite often and never had as many problems in divorce as are seeing now (atleast so it seems). Is it more of a generational gap? Divorce was frowned upon and people just didn't do it. These days, people don't care ..they get married and divorced 4-5 times in their lives ...I think it's disgusting what people have turned marriage into. If you're not going to actually be there for better or for worse then don't say that you will be ...that just makes you a liar and a fat mouth.

QUOTE (iamshack @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 02:31 PM) Because of the number of marriages that end in divorce, and quickly, at that. I said "if you're going to spend your life with someone" ..meaning, you aren't going to give up and throw in the towel like a little wiener who runs at the first sign of hard times.

QUOTE (The Beast @ Aug 2, 2010 -> 11:26 AM) I know, the question about marriage seems ridiculous but it is widely debated at another forum that I've read. I'm not actually buying into it being just a contract between two people. But with all of the divorce and marriages failing in the US, I do question the concept of marriage, even if I would like to get hitched one day. I believe in marriage. I believe that it's not just a momentary, "oh, I'll just try it and see what happens" thing. It's something that takes a lot of time and dedication to make it work. ..I think that people don't take it seriously enough and have made a joke out of it. It's also better to be married should something happen to your significant other. (God forbid) Even if you've spent a s*** ton of your life with that person, built a life with them and they die ...you're not entitled to anything. Their family could screw you over big time ..so IMO, if you're going to spend your life with someone anyway, why not make it legally binding???

QUOTE (flavum @ Aug 1, 2010 -> 08:40 PM) Looks like Holmberg's first game with Missoula will be against his former teammates. HAHAHAHAHA OHH NO!! His first game is with the Osprey?!?!?!

QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Aug 1, 2010 -> 07:48 PM) I was just going to post this. The kid put it on his facebook page. I like it. LOL I don't have him on Facebook ...Chase told me! haha

QUOTE (TomPickle @ Aug 1, 2010 -> 05:39 PM) Petricka: 5 IP, 2 H, 0 ER, 0 BB, 5 K Keep it up. Petricka to Kanny tomorrow.

QUOTE (Ozzie Ball @ Aug 1, 2010 -> 06:26 AM) You can't be great every time out. Agreed!! That would suggest that you are perfect ..that doesn't exist.

QUOTE (knightni @ Jul 31, 2010 -> 03:33 PM) One day a guy was out in the woods taking a pee, when suddenly a rattlesnake came out of the bushes and bit him on his dick. He gave a loud yell, and his friend came running to his side. "What has happened?" "A snake bit me on my dick, you're going to have to go find a doctor and ask what to do." The friend leaves the guy to find help. Soon he came upon a town, and found the local doctor. "Help! my friend has been bitten by a rattlesnake! What should I do?" The doctor replied: "Well, you will have to suck the poison from the wound, then bandage it up." "Thank you doctor!" the friend replied while running back out the door. He ran for a while until he found his friend who was bitten, lying on the ground. "Well, what did he say?" asked the victim. His friend looked at the wound, and then looked at him and said, "He said you're gonna die." Awww ..how sad. I thought that's what friends were for! haha

QUOTE (G&T @ Jul 31, 2010 -> 05:24 PM) You're not a nun named Bruce, are you? Bruce ...Bren ...close enough, right?!? LOL JUST KIDDING!! I am def not a nun. I would irritated at those caps messing with my hair all the time!

QUOTE (lostfan @ Jul 31, 2010 -> 10:23 AM) well I've been on sites where "dick" was in a word filter but it'd always come out as *bleep* Cheney when you were talking about politics. lol. "ass" isnt in the word filter either. Good ...2 of my faves!!! ...words I mean ..

I'm still waiting for Joe to come up with a really good new nickname for this kid right here!!

yeah ...I know a few that I would never post on here. I feel guilty just repeating them!! haha

QUOTE (fathom @ Jul 30, 2010 -> 08:30 PM) Why do pedophiles not get along well with people? They struggle to fit in. EWWW freaking disgusting!! As a mother of 3, I am very disturbed by this joke!

QUOTE (BearSox @ Jul 30, 2010 -> 08:11 PM) Oh man, if Im in a public rest room taking a dump, I try and make sure my farts are as loud as possible. I am so thankful that you and I will never share a bathroom!! lol

QUOTE (IceCreamPants @ Jul 30, 2010 -> 12:33 PM) My dick is on lock down until the trade deadline is over. Just way to many nerves to relax and let go. I didn't know we were allowed to say "dick" .. I coulda been cussin' you guys a longgg time ago! wtf?!?!

QUOTE (IceCreamPants @ Jul 30, 2010 -> 01:29 PM) There is 3 guys being chased by the police. One Black guy,one Mexican guy, and a Polish guy. They run into the alley way and hide in three different sacks. The cops find the sack that the black guy is in and they kick it. The black guy says "meow meow...meow". So the police think oh its just some cats. They go to the next sack with the Mexican guy in it and kick it. The Mexican guy says "ruff...ruff" and the police think oh thats just a sack of puppies barking. The they get to the third sack and kick it and the polish guy says "POTATOES....POTATOES....POTATOES...". AAAHAHAHA that is soo funny!! freaking polocks ..gotta love em'! lmfao

Teacher: Billy why are you crying and why did you bring your cat to school? Billy: Because I heard my dad tell my mom "When Billy leaves to school I'm gonna beat that p**** up!" Who comes up with this stuff?!?! LMFAO!!

QUOTE (EvilJester99 @ Jul 30, 2010 -> 01:12 PM) Everytime I change from Keeley people tell me to go back LoL Fine I will switch it back. I just liked this ones abs. Her abs are nice, but I honestly didn't notice till you mentioned them ...I was too distracted by her retarded looking chest pieces!

QUOTE (IceCreamPants @ Jul 30, 2010 -> 01:03 PM) Something else has got to happen before this deadline. Something really huge...mark my words, because the numbers arent matching up and the trade doesnt make sense. Marked ...

QUOTE (EvilJester99 @ Jul 30, 2010 -> 12:33 PM) Hey as Foxworthy put it.... "If you're going to feel like a pervert.. you might as well act like one" HAHA I suppose this is true ..no point in trying to deceive people. BTW the chick in your avatar ..she's alright, but her boobs are wayyyy too close together!! Jusss sayin'! LOL ..I like the one with the girl in the blue!

QUOTE (chw42 @ Jul 30, 2010 -> 12:51 PM) He must have cyber hug raped you then. Perhaps that's the reason he's been joyous lately?! Not something I personally would be completely thrilled about, but hey, it's whatever tickles his fancy!