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QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 03:08 PM) A bar fight is on no level equal to spousal abuse. Read up on it. When both are one time events, I think it's pretty much the same. You're just assuming there was more background here without any evidence to support it.

QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 03:01 PM) Something else my wife and I have always stressed is to not treat kids like they are stupid. When they ask questions, we try to answer them as honestly as possible, and also intelligently. Treat them like little people and build their intellectual curiosity. Stretch their minds. Today my kids are 6 and 8, and I swear it has paid off, as I can have intelligent conversations with both of them on complex and uncomfortable subjects without having to resort to things like "maybe when you are older" or "you wouldn't understand" or trying to dumb things down. It also gives them a level of self-confidence in their life, and a willingness to lead. I swear your kids are always smarter than you think they are. Yeah that's a good one. We constantly ask my son questions (what color is X, is Y soft or hard, what's Z's name, etc.) and have since he started saying just a few words. I think it's been huge for his development and his communication skills. It helped him understand words and concepts versus just being able to repeat them.

QUOTE (Dick Allen @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 03:05 PM) If Rice had hit another guy, he certainly would have gone to jail, probably would have been sued, and perhaps unavailable to the Ravens this year anyway. I do agree, the outrage wouldn't have been the same, but Rice may have ultimately wound up worse than he is now. No way. Not a chance. At WORST he misses a game. And I doubt he misses that.

QUOTE (IlliniKrush @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 03:01 PM) Seriously? 25% serious. I think hitting a woman is terrible and much worse, but I do wonder why it's SO much worse than hitting a man. There's an implicit "women are inferior and need protecting" subtext there.

QUOTE (Dick Allen @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 02:53 PM) Could have, but more likely there has been previous incidents. Maybe not as bad as this, but going after a guy in a bar is far different than going after a woman, not to mention one you supposedly love and are about to marry. Just making s*** up here. There's no evidence of that, at all. Also, I'd like the record to show that we're treating women differently here, even though we're not supposed to. Equality, right? If Rice had hit another guy in the elevator this is a non-story.

QUOTE (Soxbadger @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 02:44 PM) Everyone knew this in February. The video released in February showed Rice dragging her around. The only thing you didnt see was the punch. But anyone who has half a brain knows that a punch to knock someone out cold isnt a love tap. /shrug Im so fauxraged right now, just wait till next week when something else captivates the minds of Americans to get mad about. I mean s***, youd think Ray Rice was War Machine (ironically that story isnt getting half as much coverage). "Come on everyone, back to the Redskins bandwagon!"

QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 02:37 PM) The fact that he punched her in the face is actually the strongest indication of a pattern. Abuse almost never starts off at that level of violence. It almost always starts off more subtle, and works it way up to getting punched in the face. Who just one day decides to punch someone in the face, versus all of the other possible interactions they could have? Usually you get to that point because in the eyes of the abuser, the rest of the steps haven't worked. I don't buy this at all. About 5 years ago I decked a guy in a bar who was being a dick and messing with friends of mine. I was drunk, I got pissed off, and I acted, unfortunately in that way. Before that, I had never hit another person in my life. I'm one of the least confrontational people you'll ever meet. I snapped. Rice, while drunk, could have just snapped too.

QUOTE (iamshack @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 02:28 PM) I don't really read a whole lot of emails when I am out and about. Texts, yes, emails, no. I think the argument against is still mobility/convenience. It's not the problem people think it is. You just have to try it out I guess to believe me.

QUOTE (iamshack @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 02:22 PM) Honestly, when I am at work or traveling, I almost always have both. And when I don't have both, such as when I am just out and about, I have little interest in doing anything with my phone that that a larger screen would add a significant advantage for. Even something as simple as reading an email is better on a bigger screen. Typing is 10000000000000000000000 times better on a bigger screen. If it cost more money I could see the argument against it, but when they're the same price there's zero debate.

QUOTE (Jake @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 02:16 PM) A 5.5" phone is no replacement for a tablet. With that said, larger phones will increase the demand for smart watches - the watch will seem more and more useful as the phones become unwieldy. No way. Smart watches are going to die in 2 years. They're just an extra screen, that's it. They have no practical functionality. I think the laptop "loses" but there's still going to be a big business market out there for them. Most people will have a phone and a tablet for random internet use. The laptop is still important because of the keyboard. I don't see that going away anytime soon. Not until voice/thought recognition exists to a near perfect degree.

QUOTE (Steve9347 @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 01:54 PM) It has a bigger screen. EDIT: That's literally it on my end. I'll have to play with both, but I see no reason I wouldn't want the bigger screen. Also, that likely means a bigger battery and definitely more storage. I've got the Note 3 and the bigger screen is awesome. There's literally no downside. It fits in jean/work pockets just fine. You can use it with one hand unless you have freakish carny hands. If you're wearing tight pants, well, stop, and also put it in your jacket pocket or a bag. My wife was hesitant at first but now she loves it. Bigger is better.

QUOTE (StrangeSox @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 12:47 PM) "s/he'll change" "s/he still loves me" "s/he didn't really mean it, s/he just lost their temper" "I know I'm not perfect, I provoked him/her" We don't even have to guess at the potential rationalizations in this case. We have that tweet via the Ravens about Janay apologizing for "the role that she played." "There goes my money train..."

QUOTE (JPN366 @ Sep 8, 2014 -> 11:34 PM) God help you, Steve... I honestly didn't think you had a d***, jokes on me. You have no idea how your life is about to change, s*** I was 29 when my son was born and whoa! That was a shock to the system. Honestly though, BE INVOLVED! Don't be one of those chauvinist a$$holes who thinks the woman has to do everything or whatever. I doubt you are, but just sayin'. Guys, what else does he need to know? I'm so exhausted, I've had my son at home all day. So many, but from my 2-3 years of experience: Pregnancy: 1) Prepare for the mood swings and irrational emotional outbursts. The joke about pregnant woman being crazy is overplayed, but there's a little but of truth to it. Finding your pregnant wife bawling over that Sarah McLachlan animal rescue commercial or a Cheerios Mothers' Day commercial, may happen. 2) That said, don't treat her like she'd disabled or anything. That'll get you on the s*** list too. Be supportive. 3) Don't wait until the last minute to get the nursery ready. He/she may decide to come to the world a little earlier than expected. Once the kid arrives: 1) Enjoy it. Every good and bad thing. Sounds crazy, and you'll hear this from everyone and you won't believe it, but time flies with kids. Even at 2 years, it seems like 2 weeks. 2) At some point you'll be one of those poor Asian women in awful pornos -you'll be s*** on, pissed on, spit on, puked on, booger-ed on, etc. Be prepared. 3) Read to your son/daughter from the day they're born. Introduce them to books even if they can't (or don't) pay attention. One day it will click, and then reading will be a great 5-10 minute bonding ritual before bed (or whenever it's needed). 4) I don't know if there's any truth to this medically speaking, but I'd recommend it anyway - mess with the kids hands/feet/toes when they're infants like you would with a new puppy. It's a 15 minute battle to clip my kids' nails. He hates it. It is f***ing brutal. I want to break a window every time we do it. I feel like if I had touched and caressed his feet, toes and hands more, this wouldn't happen. I hear this advice all the time for dogs and I bet it works for a kid too. Or I could be crazy. I dunno. It's worth a shot. 5) Kids are durable. You'll be overly sensitive to everything at first, as you should, but trust me, kids are durable. 6) A key one - don't buy a lot of unnecessary s***, and tell your family/friends not to get you unnecessary s***. Toys specifically. At each stage there is a max amount of toys that each kid will ever use or play with. Like 2 is probably the number. Maybe 3. Use rotations. Let the kid play with 1-2 things for a week or two, and when it gets old put them away and get another 1-2 toys. When that gets old, bring back the original ones. Rinse and repeat. They won't know the difference for a while (years). And you'll save yourself the headache of dealing with multiple loud, flashing toys at one time. That and they take up a lot of space, even in a home. This was the biggest regret I think I've had so far as a parent. We should have requested money instead of gifts. Except books. Again, you can never have enough books.

Sounds like Brunson decided to announce while visiting Nova. And he called to cancel his Temple official visit while at Nova. Not a good sign.

QUOTE (BigHurt3515 @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 12:14 AM) Pretty interesting show. I think I am going to stick with it. With all these live feeds and girls running around naked, how are there not photos or uncensored videos/photos of this stuff?? This show should be on HBO or Showtime. A lot of cussing and nudity just blurred or bleeped out, takes away half the fun Check Reddit. Weirdos spend all day screen capping/recording the live streams.

QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 10:09 AM) I work recovery in chase, we issue credit as soon as the case is assigned. Ah, there you go.

QUOTE (StrangeSox @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 10:05 AM) For the bank, sure, but fighting with Chase over a $2000 charge I don't want to pay is different than fighting with Chase over $2000 that are already withdrawn from my account via debit card. Usually it's the same processing time if they catch it early enough (within 24 hours). The bank only puts a hold on your account with debit purchases until it clears. Technically it's not withdrawn until its processed. My wife has had her debit card # stolen twice in the last 3-4 years. Both times Chase immediately notified us (because the charges were in Australia or another country at almost the same time as charges here) and we shut the card off. I think it's been under a few hundred bucks both times and it was never an issue getting the charges removed.

QUOTE (NorthSideSox72 @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 08:53 AM) Forgetting level of punishment for a moment... how pathetic is it that it took TMZ to dig up this video, when the police and the NFL either couldn't (incompetent) or chose not to watch it (frightening). The police never saw it? That's crazy. There are potential criminal charges in play. The NFL? Meh. They met with Rice and his fiance. They were told what happened. They knew he knocked her out with a punch. I'm not sure they needed to see that video to hand out his suspension. The video just shows what they already knew. What did people expect when they heard Rice punched his GF and knocked her out and then saw a video of him dragging her unconscious body around?

QUOTE (IlliniKrush @ Sep 9, 2014 -> 12:44 AM) Overreaction? Hardly. Not quite sure how you're still defending this whole thing. He's spot on here, and has been for months on this. Now everyone else is finally catching up. The NFL f***ed up the entire investigation. They interviewed her with Ray in the room. You absolutely positively cannot interview a person that's been abused with said abuser IN THE ROOM. It's absolutely incredible. So, what he's saying is correct, marriage or no marriage. I'm not "defending" Rice, I just think it's crazy for an organization like the NFL to set forth a procedure/policy of punishment and then 2 weeks later completely ignore it. I prefer that people, even assholes, get a little due process. edit: Just so it's said, I'm fine with the Ravens cutting him, even if we all know they did it as a knee jerk reaction. They didn't break any protocol there.

Yeah it's not the Ravens, it's the NFL preventing him from getting another job (if there is one) because of the suspension. Also, Jesus: http://deadspin.com/keith-olbermann-on-rog...dium=socialflow Again with the overreaction. This is damn near grounds for a defamation claim if it's not true.

QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Sep 8, 2014 -> 04:31 PM) We can't. But your employer can fire you for a whole myriad of reasons, this being one of them. The NFL has a conduct policy, and very clearly stipulates a whole list of reasons you can be fired from your job (aka have your contract terminated). It also has the right to bar you from working from them again, just like any other company does. I would bet Rice still has recourse against the NFL though if he just arbitrarily changes the punishment. When you set forth a protocol on how to treat your employees and you don't follow them you're breaching your agreement.

QUOTE (iamshack @ Sep 8, 2014 -> 04:29 PM) I think they could apply mitigating or aggravating factors to shorten or lengthen the suspension, however. What's the mitigating factor? The video?

QUOTE (iamshack @ Sep 8, 2014 -> 04:22 PM) Technically, they aren't outside of the protocol, are they? Didn't the policy give them the ability to suspend someone for longer depending on some other factors? Besides, this occurred prior to the protocol...in fact, it was obviously the reason the protocol was created in the first place. I thought it was 6 games for a first offender. I guess technically "indefinite" could be 6, but they better decide that quickly.

QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Sep 8, 2014 -> 04:14 PM) So the NFL could have empowered a wife beater, in the interest of some kind of misguided fairness. Pass. Misguided fairness? What the hell is the point of a protocol if you're just going to ignore it? They handed down the punishment and then because a video leaked they scrapped that in favor of something. That's bulls***, even if Rice deserves it.

QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ Sep 8, 2014 -> 04:08 PM) At some point, to set up harsher penalties someone has to be the first one to get them, so all of the historical BS of how they looked the other direction strawman will be there. If it wasn't Ray Rice, it was the next guy, or the guy after him. f*** the NFL for looking the other way for this for so long, and all of the other felony's they pretend don't happen. Hopefully some day they join the rest of the world in not wanting to associate with the people who beat their spouses, or any of the other felony's. No, the NFL could have followed the protocol it created specifically as a result of this case. And not change their mind mere weeks later.