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I'm still amazed at how people get together, date for years and years, and never talk about relatively basic "wants" in life. I have a buddy who's been with this girl for about 7 years now. They're married under the common law in Colorado. He just found out she has zero desire to ever have kids. Not like "maybe later," but never. He, on the other hand, would like to have kids and is pretty bummed about it. And he's in his mid-30's, so he has to make a move relatively soon (if at all). I can't do it now since I have a one year old, but if I were back in the dating scene I would have to think that would be a topic of conversation in the first few dates. Right? How do you go that many years without it being discussed?

QUOTE (IlliniKrush @ Jun 24, 2013 -> 01:00 PM) Maybe not in your case since you had property or whatever, but it absolutely is a trial run before it's the real thing for the vast majority of people at 20 or 22. I agree with this. My wife's from a divorced family, and she says the same thing all the time. I get what you're saying re: the trial run. I'm just saying that for all practical purposes you are married, even if you don't have the official designation. I'm not talking about someone you're dating for 2-3 years but don't live with. If you make the decision to live with someone you're sharing living expenses, you're doing separate chores, you're shopping for food together, you might start buying personal property together, you might get pets, etc etc. You're defacto married during that trial run without realizing it because you haven't take the extra step of spending a s*** ton of money on a ring and a party. Edit: and this is a big reason why a lot of states had/have common law marriage. And that makes sense about not wanting to subject your kids to a divorce. I guess I was thinking more of the 25-35 year old crowd that doesn't have kids yet (i.e., my friends/family that have gone through it).

QUOTE (ZoomSlowik @ Jun 24, 2013 -> 12:44 PM) I can't believe I'm saying this given my pessimism last year, but I think I'd rather take my chances with the Bulls' current core this year. Rose/Butler/Deng/Boozer/Noah is a very solid starting 5 even though it doesn't feature a second star. Hinrich also looks far better as a backup PG and they still have Taj. My only real concern would be questionable outside shooting, which could be addressed by adding a wing off the bench or two. Of course if we were talking about a top-5 pick in the 2014 pick instead of the 2013 draft, my answer would be very different. I just don't see the value that the phrase "#1 pick" would normally deliver. Noel is really a luxury for the Bulls unless they do something drastic with their frontcourt. Long-term, you're likely looking at Noah/Mirotic/Gibson, which is a capable 3-man rotation. A wing would make more sense, but your top three options (McLemore, Oladipo and Porter) aren't exactly can't-miss options. I don't think you can say with any kind of confidence that any of those three will be better than Butler or Deng in the next 3 years. There is certainly a financial benefit, but that affects JR's checking account more than your roster flexibility. Rose+Noah+Taj is almost $40 million already and the #1 pick and Mirotic is about $10 million more. That leaves MAYBE $10 million for the other 8 roster spots. If they had a shot at Andrew Wiggins or Jabari Parker it'd be a no-brainer, but then Cleveland wouldn't even consider trading the pick. I just don't see how they get past the Heat with Boozer.

QUOTE (witesoxfan @ Jun 24, 2013 -> 11:59 AM) If nothing else, it would be a very good defensive team. Oh, and if you took in Pierce, he would definitely start with Jimmy Buckets off the bench as the 6th man. Pierce is slow. I don't think he adds much value other than some ticket sales on a small market team.

And while I love the idea of Garnett on the Bulls, I really doubt he and Noah would get along. They don't care for each other.

QUOTE (Quinarvy @ Jun 24, 2013 -> 11:53 AM) Time for the NBA2k trade machine hat... Bulls In: #1 Pick Cavs In: Deng, #20 Then... Bulls In: Kevin Garnett Nets In: Boozer Celtics In: Humphries, Brooks, Teague Bulls then buy a 2nd round pick to go along with their 2nd rounder. The Mizzou fan in me would love to see them draft Pressey and Oriakhi, but any PG and big will do. Sign Pierce Sign Marco and Nazr for the vet minimum. PG: Rose/Hinrich/2nd Rounder SG: Oladipo/Bellinelli SF: Butler/Pierce PF: Garnett/Taj/Thomas C : Noah/Nazr/2nd Rounder Wait, are the bulls drafting oladipo #1 in this scenario?

I feel like moving Deng for a prospect is a good idea if we were planning to compete in 2-3 seasons. The Bulls' window of opportunity is now.

QUOTE (pittshoganerkoff @ Jun 24, 2013 -> 11:14 AM) yeah they could have explained that better.

QUOTE (IlliniKrush @ Jun 24, 2013 -> 09:54 AM) But that's exactly it. It was a nice trial run for you. What's the rush to get married? You had a lot easier out at that point before that time came at 28. Marrying at 20 is silly...someone can think they are mature, but as we all know, you really aren't, there's so much more to learn and a lot of room to grow. I'm sure you can attest to that. I have to imagine the divorce rate for those married at age 20 is a lot higher than it is for those married at 28. Maybe I'm wrong. I agree there's no reason to rush, but the reasoning that you have an easy out just isn't true. Sure, it's more complex if you have a house and some kids, but even at 22 we were living together with "marital property" and "kids" (pets) that would need to be split up. It would have been a divorce without the paperwork. Being all of 31 and seeing how a variety of my friends grew up and now act as adults with their wives/ex-wives, I'm convinced that people who grow up in a non-nuclear family grow up with a different mindset on marriage and what it entails. When you have parents who have been together for 40 years divorce seems like the last possible option, whereas if you're exposed to it and lived through it it becomes a more attractive option. I just had a buddy who cheated on his wife shortly after they got separated and were trying to work things out. He had no patience. He just flipped a switch one day and said it was over so he could bang another girl. And I think a lot of that was living through a divorce himself at a really young age. My wife and I were lucky that both of are parents have been married forever and still like being around each other. She and I have both changed over the years but we both realize that our marriage and family are the most important things, not what she and I might get out of it personally. You have to sacrifice. You have to work at it. You have to want to work at it. I feel like with each passing generation "marriage" is just being degraded into something you do to appease your family/society so that it looks ok when you want to live with someone else. And that's sad.

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Jun 24, 2013 -> 10:12 AM) Relatively minor correction, IMO. Stocks have been a big "too high" as far as I'm concerned. But, like always, nothing to worry about. I wouldn't call it minor. Most of the gains the last 6 months are gone. But yeah, it'll come back. Eventually.

I think shooting yourself in the leg has to be #1 on that list.

Stocks going down down down.

QUOTE (greg775 @ Jun 22, 2013 -> 11:18 PM) Do you feel China wishes to conquer the world? No. I view them as a sane North Korea - they've been (and in many ways still are) a third world country and have recently gone through a major revolution. They want to be seen as a first world power.

QUOTE (pittshoganerkoff @ Jun 24, 2013 -> 09:44 AM) I think I remember reading that it was. I liked the finale as well. I've wondered how long it would take the other partners to grow tired of Don's antics. One question I had, though: Did I miss something about Peter going to California?

QUOTE (BigSqwert @ Jun 24, 2013 -> 08:48 AM) Great finale for Mad Men. Is next season the last one? Weiner has said no one has talked to him about it so he's assuming it's the last season. Sounds like he's leaving the door open a little if AMC wants to pay for more. I thought it was a good finale and a good season. A lot of things from last night were a little unbelievable though. I would have liked a longer progression of change instead of something so abrupt. That said, I really like how they are setting things up for next season (assuming Weiner doesn't just flip the switch and go back to the way it has always been). The series finale may end on a happier note than I would have thought possible before last night. Does anyone watch True Blood anymore? My wife and I watched the premiere episode last night. Somehow they managed to make the show even worse. Instead of one or two bad story lines, there are now four or five.

QUOTE (Brian @ Jun 24, 2013 -> 04:44 AM) A girl I work with got married this weekend, at age 20. She's a nice girl and hope it works, but I can't imagine being married at 20. Eh, I think it works for some people. Just depends on her personality (i.e., maturity). My wife and I have been together since we were 20. Living together 95% of the time since 21. We didn't get married until we were 28, but that only made it official. We were living as if we were (got animals together, furniture together, etc.) that entire time.

Worst movie of all time nominee:

What kind of crap is that? "Well, he's dead, but, I dunno, maybe he's not? We'll see how it goes."

Also here's this: http://kotaku.com/rumor-about-xbox-one-fam...s-fla-534484570 Family share wasn't just demo access for a short period of time, it truly was family/friend sharing. Which just debunks that idiot's letter about saving developers and getting rid of the used game industry.

QUOTE (TaylorStSox @ Jun 21, 2013 -> 03:46 PM) Time flies. It's pretty subjective anyway. Still, I wouldn't expect a game of the year calibre game to have the time to implement something like Kinect. Maybe you're right and in 3 years some awesome game will find a cool way to implement motion controls or voice commands. But it's not here yet so give me the option of buying it later. I'm going to piss away 100 bucks on this system and never use that Kinect, that's why i'm upset about it.

QUOTE (Balta1701 @ Jun 21, 2013 -> 03:35 PM) Personally if I were in his shoes the only team I'd take a call from is Phoenix, but that's just me. He needs to go to (queue Simmons) Germany!

QUOTE (TaylorStSox @ Jun 21, 2013 -> 03:01 PM) And I just said last year's game of the year was in development for at least 4 years. What game are you referring to?

QUOTE (TaylorStSox @ Jun 21, 2013 -> 02:36 PM) Why wasn't there a game of the year that implemented technology that was being developed at the same time the game was being developed? You don't need me to really answer that, right? You know how long it takes to make a good game, right? Last year's game of the year took about 4 years to make. ?? The Wii and its motion controls came out in 2006. Sony had its sixaxis controller out at launch in 2006. And the Playstation move and Kinect were launched in 2010. Those are commercial launch dates, so developers had them at least a year before that. So...that's plenty of time to come up with a cool use.

QUOTE (TaylorStSox @ Jun 21, 2013 -> 01:50 PM) You don't think voice activation would useful? How about voice or gesture activation for pulling up a HUD in a first person shooter? Switching through maps? Pulling up apps without going through several menus? You don't even know what it's capable of, but you're saying its not useful? Ok. Nope. I don't want to talk to my game/TV. I can take the extra .25 seconds to hit a button on my controller. And I realize the technology will get better, but the original Kinect didn't work very well. If it was 100% accurate all the time when you said something like "xbox on" or "play HBO," MAYBE i'd use it. But it's not that accurate and it becomes more of a pain in the ass than it's worth. That, and I don't feel like paying 100 bucks for it. That's great if Microsoft wants to push this voice activation stuff. Just don't force me to pay for it. The fact is Kinect is a marketing gimmick and I really wish people could see that. Get your teen girls and your old people to buy in and it's a business success but it doesn't advance the gaming experience for real gamers. Just like motion controls. Name me a "best game of the year" candidate that successfully integrated either technology to make a significant improvement in the game. The best example of motion control was the latest Zelda game and that was fun for all of 30 minutes. For Kinect, what, Dance Dance Revolution?

QUOTE (witesoxfan @ Jun 21, 2013 -> 01:30 PM) He is an absolutely incredible player, there's no doubting that. I think we can dispel the rumors of him not being clutch now too. I think that was gone last year in the Boston series. Plus his numbers in game 7's are the best ever.