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I am on probation with my girlfriend for whoever cared to know what happened. Keeping my mouth shut would have certainly been the path of least resistance but I'm glad I came clean. I actually read witesoxfan's post about the benefits to nipping it at the bud. For those who have never seen a 1% chance hit, well here it is. Thanks for the advice all. Good night!

Breaking two girls hearts in a week. You can definitely say I've learned a valuble f***ing lesson.

Not tongue in cheek. It was a legit question. I am telling her now. Of course it's not going well. Oh well.

QUOTE (witesoxfan @ Feb 6, 2013 -> 10:52 AM) Yep, best to come clean and start over. I've talked about it felt like I cheated once upon a time and dated the same girl again, and it happens in other relationships too. It's not a move that comes highly recommended for trust in each other. There's about a 75% chance that you really shot yourself in the foot, a 24% chance that you can still, at the very least, date this Santeria chick for about a year before you get tired of her, and a 1% chance you can get back with your original girl. You still need to come clean nonetheless because living with that amount of guilt will bring unnecessary tension and terrible vibes to the relationship. Why do we do things that we know will have terrible consequences?

QUOTE (iamshack @ Feb 6, 2013 -> 10:49 AM) Wait, wait, wait... Did you just have dinner and dessert and wine? Did you have any intimate contact, whatsoever? Read in between the lines. I said the rest was self explanatory.

QUOTE (Chisoxfn @ Feb 6, 2013 -> 10:35 AM) Well I'm an honest guy so no matter what I think you need to tell your girlfriend what happened. Is that the best way to ensure things continue, probably not, but its the best policy. You f***ed up and need to man up to it. She has a zero tolerance policy. So if I come clean, I'm f***ed! You're right though, she deserves to know.

QUOTE (witesoxfan @ Feb 6, 2013 -> 10:19 AM) Honestly, how do you feel? Do you still have those feelings for the other girl or do you feel like you messed up? If it's the former, then you need to end the other relationship f***ing yesterday. If it's the latter, then I'm not sure what to tell you. Honestly, I feel like I made a grave mistake. I am starting to think it was the sheer infatutation and not genuine. I went to her place and saw she practices the religion of Santeria. She had shrines and rules about what you could or couldn't do in front of the spirits. I don't judge people or their religion by any means but I somewhat avoid people who are heavily involved with anytype of religion.

QUOTE (iamshack @ Feb 6, 2013 -> 09:57 AM) Oh man...you are a dirty bastard Don't remind me man.

QUOTE (bigruss22 @ Feb 6, 2013 -> 09:56 AM) You're now into territory of messing both up, how are you going to play it out? I have no idea at this point but I am starting to believe Y2HH initial assessment was right. Sometimes you got to live and learn to find s*** out though.

I hit the point of no return last night. She invited me over and made a delicious dinner. We had dessert. We had wine. The rest is pretty self explanatory. I Dunn f***ed up now.

QUOTE (Steve9347 @ Feb 4, 2013 -> 11:20 AM) Actually, you don't ever have to lie. You're right it's a choice but why do people lie? To protect something more or less.

QUOTE (iamshack @ Feb 4, 2013 -> 11:07 AM) No, what I meant is just keep stay friendly with her, but don't take it any farther...in the meantime, stick with your girlfriend and see if this goes away or if it continues to be something at the front of your mind. Friendly is subjective to some extent. Here's the problem, I have a feeling if I tell her I have girlfriend that will eliminate any chances I have with her. Obviously that would suck but that would be honest. Right now, it hasn't came up yet but if it does I'll pretty much have to start the lies which would be bad news. I can try to keep it friendly but we already text all day. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it, but I have definitely talked to this girl more than my girlfriend the past week and seen her more too.

QUOTE (iamshack @ Feb 4, 2013 -> 10:16 AM) Yeah, my girlfriend (soon to be my fiancee) works at the same company as I do too. This clearly depends on the size of the company...we have 1700 employees in this building and I almost never see her here...in fact, I don't even eat lunch with her or anything. She may as well work for a different company for all I know.] As for the original question, the last girl I dated was really, really sweet, and at one time, I think we thought we really had something going...but then we ran into the same issue as you are...we just didn't have enough in common. She is a major foodie, lives and dies to eat at amazing restaurants...follows chefs like we follow professional sports teams. She also was big into fashion and art and trendy s*** like that. I, on the other hand, am into sports and being active outdoors and my dogs, etc. We really cared for one another, but at the end of the day, we were just too different, and this caused rifts in our relationship. Enough so, that we eventually broke up amicably. A few months later, I met another girl that had a lot more in common with me...and we have a much easier and low-key relationship. I think you owe it to yourself to let it play out a bit more and make sure this thing with the new girl isn't just a fad or a crush first. I'm assuming that your post was geared toward me. It's somewhat dangerous to let it play out because I'm technically still involved with my girlfriend. How on earth do I play it out without being suspicious/shady? Spend time with and her see where it goes? As I said, I won't really know it's a crush/fad unless I continue to talk to her.

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Feb 4, 2013 -> 08:54 AM) Say nothing beyond this. Stop. Do not pass go on this one. Don't get involved with people you work with or at the same company as...it's never a good idea. And the reason you feel the way you do is because she's new...and your using this "common interests" excuse to justify it, it has nothing to do with these interests...it has to do with her being new/different from what you have. OK if you looked at one of my previous post I said it very well could be sheer infatuation. You sound pretty confident about how I feel about this situation. LMAO. I understand that getting involved with a co-worker is bad news bears but isn't this case a tad bit different? Universities are huge and although I may know what department she works in it's cross campus.

QUOTE (IlliniKrush @ Feb 3, 2013 -> 01:31 PM) If your gut says the new girl is it, time to be honest and cut ties with the old one before it becomes really hurtful. If you're having that strong of feelings for another girl, it doesn't appear to me that you like/love the first one that much. Do you see long-term potential in the first one? I'm not sure how old you are or what you're looking for, but somewhere that has to be in the back of your mind. Illinikrush how can you forget me man? Sox and Tigers last game of the season! That was me you were sitting next to LMAO. Here's the thing. I thought I saw long term potential until it donned on me we don't share many common interests. That's what this new girl brought to the table. She's not a co-worker she just works at the same university. My current girlfriend is great but she's just missing that X factor. Now I'm aware that this might be sheer infatuation with this new girl and I'm not trying to base a decision on that impulse. I know that if I keep seeing both women that's the epitome of having my cake and eating it. I'm trying to nip it at the bud before I get into the "player" territory.

I'm not sure why my age is relevant per se but I'm 27. I met her at work.

I have a pretty delicate situation. Here's the story: I have been dating a woman for a year and couple of months now. She is a really sweet girl and I like her. However a week ago, I met a new woman by coincidence and we started talking. I have so much more in common with this girl and we connected really fast. I am started to have feelings for this girl and I am already feel like it's tearing me up inside. I like my girlfriend a lot but I wasn't aware that I was so vulnerable to a new woman swooping in like this. I'm not sure if this post is too vague for a response but if anyone needs any clarification, I'll be had to shed a light on it. Thanks in advance for the responses.

For every "oh s***,why war?" American there is probably an Iranian saying the same thing. Iran's government is bad news. The citizens are probably just trying to get by like Americans.

Do you have money to go to war with Iran? Or are you hoping the US drops MOAB and ends it in one shot? I don't know you and if you have served or not but it seems that people who are biggest cheerleaders for war are the ones that are sitting behind their keyboards. As for your what's popular what's not popular; If you haven't seen the sheer divisiveness stirring up in the US over the past few years than I don't know what to say. People are ready to find a reason to do something stupid and revolt. I believe another war could be the straw that broke the camel's back. IMHO.

I rather not play this hypothetical game. People are tired of this damn politicians making decisions that are vastly unpopular with the majority of people. I have a feeling if we are somehow pushed into another war that the people in this country will lose their cool. Japan might be dependent on the US but the reality of the matter is it'll be away from the ticking time bomb that is the American people.

QUOTE (Y2HH @ Feb 1, 2013 -> 01:24 PM) I still don't get this... Why? It's the blackhole effect. That will ultimately bring the US involved and I rather not stick around when people go apes***. Ya dig?

QUOTE (mr_genius @ Feb 1, 2013 -> 01:24 PM) Move to Canada? Nah, Japan. I have permanent residency.

Voted. Best of luck brother.

QUOTE (Jake @ Jan 31, 2013 -> 06:37 PM) I'll be hightailing it out of the USA if we go into a full-blown war over this. I second this motion.

SOXOBAMA IS GOING TO THE SUPERBOWL.