No-Strings-Attached Sex

 

Can friends with benefits-- or bed buddies -- really benefit both parties, or is there usually unexpected emotional fallout?

 

By Gina Shaw

WebMD Feature Reviewed By Brunilda  Nazario, MD 

 

During Julia's junior year in college, she met a great guy. But she didn't want to date him. "I was at the end of another relationship that had been really good. So I don't think I was psychologically ready to get involved again and at the same time, I was pretty horny," she recalls.

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usually unexpected emotional fallout

usually unexpected emotional fallout 

Actually, you'd be surprised. When you and your 'friend' both understand what is going on, there is no problems generally.

Many voters, not many comments.

 

Would those that say no reject on moral grounds, physical health, psychological health, combination of all 3?

 

Now when she says she still wants to be friends, it might not be such a bad thing.

 

Do you think this is easier at 20? 40? 60? 80?

 

What would your reaction be if it was your Mom? Grandpa? Daughter? Pastor? Mod?

What would your reaction be if it was your Mom? Grandpa? Daughter? Pastor? Mod?

Ya can't go from talking about sex more or less to our parents. :headshake

I am just thinking it is probably easier at 40 or 60 than 20. That puts it into the parent age. I saw you mom last night with some guy named SuperSteve, is that her new boyfriend? No, that's her bed buddy. She calls him up when she gets tense.

Why not. If you have a friend and neither are looking for more I say why not.

 

Isn't it better then a one night stand???

Yes it can work and yes it can get ugly. I've experienced both extremes and the former is much more enjoyable.

Isn't it better then a one night stand???

yup, thats my thought exactly. why not???

Yes it can work and yes it can get ugly.  I've experienced both extremes and the former is much more enjoyable.

Aboz is right... I've been on both sides...

 

Either way, somebody's going to wind up waning more out of the relationship than the other. No matter what, even if both are still "just friends", one may want the other to accompany them to a social function, i.e. a wedding, one of them will no doubt feel this assumption falls outside the bounds of a "friends" relationship.

 

 

I'm fairly impressed with how I expressed myself while completely s***faced.

If neither person is involved in another relationship and both parties know that that's what is, then I see nothing wrong with it.

I am surprised with the results, but would expect that my vote is very much male and irresponsible slanted

A lot of people "don't see anything wrong with it." At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, what about irresponsible unmarried sex that risks diseases, unwanted pregnancies, etc.?

A lot of people "don't see anything wrong with it." At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, what about irresponsible unmarried sex that risks diseases, unwanted pregnancies, etc.?

Who said anything about irresponsible sex?

A lot of people "don't see anything wrong with it." At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, what about irresponsible unmarried sex that risks diseases, unwanted pregnancies, etc.?

If you are smart about it, it's a non-issue. Sure, birth control isn't 100% guaranteed, but nothing in life is.

If you are smart about it, it's a non-issue.  Sure, birth control isn't 100% guaranteed, but nothing in life is.

I know something that is.

I know something that is.

The Cubs SUCK? :fthecubs

The Cubs SUCK? :fthecubs

That too.

Yes I would, but I havent yet.

Damn, I sure would like to know how the young woman sitting across from me would answer that

 

I am beginning to see why the public internet access area here is so popular. Toss in a couple wide screens and a bar and I might never leave.

A lot of people "don't see anything wrong with it." At the risk of sounding old-fashioned, what about irresponsible unmarried sex that risks diseases, unwanted pregnancies, etc.?

My thought is, that your obviously friends with the person, your just not looking for a relationship. You know the person enough that you know at least a bit of their sexual background.

 

To me, like I said earlier, thats way better then a one night stand. Like I've always said, the only one night stands I could see having (Minus somehow getting Brittney Spears or someone like that, lol) would be with a friend.

 

I've had one or two friends with benefits type relationships. Like Cheat and Boz said, sometimes it doesn't work out, but its still kind of a no pressure type situation and pretty enjoyable. But usually one person ends up wanting more or what not and its hard to have a friendship last after that, but it also depends on the people.