Steff

Her husband just called. They went over to her grandmothers house last night and spent most of the night talking. She admitted everything to Sue. I don't even know what to say or do for her.

If something happens to Jose I know who they are going to see first...

QUOTE(SoxFan562004 @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 03:48 PM) I agree 100% I've always been cited as being a "good interview" and I just take a few deep breaths and keep a smile on my face. Kap, what do you think about "jive" answers? Like if someone asks you what a weakness is, the "books" say answer "Well I don't have weaknesses, I only have areas I need improvements..." -I think that's BS and so phony, and I just admit to them I'm a prograstinator, but I'm able to get my work done on time. -but yeah be yourself, you don't want to put on a charade and then have to live that lie when you work there, happiness at work is important! I've been offered every job I've ever interviewed for. I know you didn't ask me, but I would rather hear weaknesses rather than bs. We're only human. EVERYONE could stand a bit of improvement. IMO, it shows more strength to admit there are areas you know are not your best assets.

QUOTE(mreye @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 03:44 PM) That's HUGE! Good point, Steff! Eh.. every once in a while I have a good idea..

3E8.. don't sweat it. You probably did better than you thik. It's completely normal and natural to be nervous. "Ummms" are to be expected and as an interviewer I would rather a potential employee think about things before they respond anyway. I also like when they give more than one reply. The whole thinking outside the box thing. I'm sure you did fine. Be sure to get that "Thanks for taking the time to consider me for the position.. " letter out asap.

What a stupid b****.

QUOTE(kapkomet @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 01:05 PM) But you all can keep it from happening again. If that's any silver lining in any of this, that's it. That's probably the only good thing to come out of things like this if there can be no prosecution I guess. Sad..

QUOTE(ChiSoxyGirl @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 01:12 PM) Not necessarily. That really depends on the state where it occurred. I highly recommend calling a legal advocate that specializes in this issue--because it's kind of murky.... It happened here in Illinois. I can't tell if this is about prosecuting him, or just making what he did known. I assume we'll talk about this tomorrow night. I haven't seen him since her wedding and things were stressed there. He's kinda the black sheep of the family. He has some medical issues (epilipsy, serious anger management, takes many, many script drugs to control him that I recall). I know there would definitely not be a civil suit. She's not the type that would go that route. But what the hell do I know.. I thought I knew the family pretty good back then.. obviously I didn't if he did this and if the grandmother covered it up. :headshake

QUOTE(southsider2k5 @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 12:26 PM) I think most of that damage is being done in civil suits. Oh.. I'm pretty sure she's not interested in going that route.

QUOTE(ChiSoxyGirl @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 12:19 PM) I'm linking RAINN's legal website, for stuff about statute of limitations. Overall, it's a very good website, and she might be able (or you might be able) to find some very good resources about coping, what to do, statistics and stuff.... I think the most important thing that you can do is to tell her that you believe her and that you're sorry for what happened to her. I wouldn't offer her advice per se, but instead I would give her options open to her (talking to her family, going to the police, going to a support group, telling significant others, etc.). I would recommend her to calling a local (or national) support line for victims of intimate violence. They can tell her very specifically the resources available to her in her area and they also will have advocates that specialize in legal issues, CSA issues, and also could have some help for her husband (the b**** about stuff like this is that there's never just one victim--her whole family has been victimized). So, I would highly recommend that. Also, you, Steff, might want to call and talk to someone at the advocacy center. Sometimes it really hits hard when you find out someone close has been hurt by something like this. And they have advocates that are trained to help the loved one's of victims (called secondary survivors). If you have any questions or anything you can PM me--I haven't done that kind of advocacy in a few months--but I'm always willing to help. Soxy.. thank you. And I think I will call. Since she told me this I am literally sick to my stomach. I can't get the thoughts out of my head. I feel like I was in some way violated also. I'm so angry and hurt but I'm not sure why. I just feel like crying.

QUOTE(LosMediasBlancas @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 12:20 PM) WOW, she confided THAT to someone who knows her family fairly well and doesn't consider her a close friend. We were friends back in grammar and high school and have kept mild touch. Everyone else she was friends with she doesn't communicate with so I'm pretty much the only one left around that knows her family. I think she was looking for someone who was familiar with her family as to minimize the embarrassment..? I don't know. I'm all confused.

QUOTE(southsider2k5 @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 12:11 PM) If it happened when she was that young, the statute of limitations is probably long since expired, so the police would be pretty worthless. All I know is there would be no way I would leave him alone with young children, and if I were her I would try to talk to the rest of the family about it. How do they prosecute Priests for this stuff from 20+ years ago then...??

QUOTE(Jeckle2000 @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 12:13 PM) I really don't think it does any good to go to the police yet because you obviously don't have enough evidence yet. More then likely though if this guy is hurting kids he would of hurt more then one. Your best course of action would be to try to ask some of the other people close to him if they had ever been attacked. The more people you can find the more likely they are to get this guy. She has a extremely detailed memory of her grandmother finding and destroying pictures she recalls him taking of her. She was telling me this... and I was balling. I'm just about to start crying again here... I think she should confront her grandmother (with a tape recorder handy) and ask her. If this is true.. my God... I just don't know. I feel like throwing up.

Guys.. Not really sure how to ask this, and I know this really isn't the place.. but I need some fast advice. A friend of mine - not a close friend but someone who's family I know fairly well and talk to every couple moths or so - called me last night to tell me that she believes that she was molested by her uncle when she was 7 years old. She's been seeing a shrink for the past 3 years and a lot of issues have come up in her therapy (memories that have been found to be true as well) and this issue came up just before Christmas. She had her first child in October and at Christmastime all her family was over. The uncle in question was there and was playing with her daughter. Sometime during the night something clicked and she literaly had a nervous breakdown. So therapy started digging into this and she's been having some seriously vivid and detailed recollections. So she calls me and tell me this and asks me what I think she should do. I barely slept a wink last night thinking about this and just crying. I am by no means qualified at all to give this woman any advice... but this is eating at me and I want to help in any way I can. Should I just tell her to go to the police? I didn't ask what the doctor told her to do.. I am meeting her for dinner tomorrow night so I guess she will tell me more then. Any of you have any advice...?? I'm completely lost on this.

QUOTE(Y2HH @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 10:57 AM) I might be a whiny baby too if "fans" treated me like yesterdays garbage when a new shiny product arrives, still in it's shrinkwrap, even though it's never yet been plugged in for real world testing. If you get what I mean. We are assuming Iggy's going to be better than Harris...and I hope he is...but until he's played a game in the Majors and prooves he's better than Harris, let's not toss Willie out the side window for nothing in return. Because THAT is just stupid. Actually I was just calling him a baby because you called Scott a baby. What's good for the goose... But to make a point.. Harris IS a whiney baby. He does it all over the place. Shut up and produce. Can't knock him if he keeps his trap shut.

QUOTE(Y2HH @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 10:35 AM) As for what you guys are doing to Willie Harris on here, lay off the guy... Harris is a whiney baby.

QUOTE(YASNY @ Feb 24, 2005 -> 01:23 AM) I can't say for sure, but I'd guess that the Sox players elected SS as rep. Yep. It's an elected role.

QUOTE(Y2HH @ Feb 23, 2005 -> 09:08 PM) Why in the WORLD would a 1 year guy be player rep? Ask the other players as they are the ones that voted him to the role.

QUOTE(Beastly @ Feb 23, 2005 -> 06:20 PM) That'd be sweet. I've wanted to do this before but who listens to Beastly... Boyer would probably get us real discounted seats too! You've been invited to meet many of us many times at many games.

QUOTE(Cali @ Feb 23, 2005 -> 05:50 PM) Those don't look like just ST hats they look like hats that could be worn in the regular season. The ST ones have that mesh look on the hat portion and usually a "sandwich" style bill with 2 different colors. I just got one and it's mesh on the top, but looks just like that one above. They also have new ST warm up jackets. Sent a large though.. I can wear it as a dress.

QUOTE(Controlled Chaos @ Feb 23, 2005 -> 12:35 PM) Well I usually make my decisions by what comes out of the horses mouth. The only time I really hear him talk is PC's. Race has nothing to do with passing Ruth and him wanting to beat him cause he was white is messed up IMO. When he says I say bulls*** to that....Im sorry...if anything he had it easier than most ball players...black, white, brown whatever.... I never had a problem with Barry being selfish...distancing himself from teammates, not talking to the media or whatever. Every player has their own way of getting mentally ready. I admired his ability to swing the bat and I have read some great articles on how he studies pitchers and approaches the game and I was extremely impressed. However, I will not excuse the race card and I will not excuse steroids. Those are a couple of reasons I base my decision on whether I like a player or not....if he happend to mention those things in his PC then that's all I have to go on.... Which is why I just let it go in one ear and out the other. Like I said.. not the sharpest tool in the shed..

QUOTE(winodj @ Feb 23, 2005 -> 02:33 PM) I just hope the drapes match the sound protection walls along I-94.

QUOTE(southsider2k5 @ Feb 23, 2005 -> 02:33 PM) "I wonder if he is thinking what I am thinking? Meow, meow, meow, meow, meow, meow..." OMG.. I almost just tinkled

"Must find Uncle Vito's #........."

Definitely a great idea.