That's exactly my point. Jim does what he wants, when he wants, as do I... but he respects me and vice versa. The strip club thing is so blase to me. Jim knows where his bread is buttered so I don't have issue with him going with his buddies (but to be honest they are more excited over a good golf course versus fake boobies and the smell of other men on their females). The most concerning thing over this situation is him saying "it's all about her"... :puke wrong. It's about the both of them.. and if he allows it to be only all about her he'll be divorced within 5 years.. and I'm being generous there.