The Beast

Here's a question for everyone in the thread - how did your first love break up with you? In my senior year, whilst on college visits, she decided it would be a great idea to break up with me, saying "I need space, I want to see my friends more, [i'm a hormonal woman]..." So my 19-year-old mind was devastated and convinced her that her and I should stay together. I successfully convinced her that we should stay together and that it would be good for us to stay together in college since we were going to school in the same area. (Dumbest idea ever and me today would want nothing more than to just beat the living s*** out me then.) I couldn't really pick out an area of study or the college for me because I was hung up on the relationship, my accounting class and being an editor for the sports section of the high school newspaper. If I went to COD state for a year, then I could have worked on the newspaper there at a cheaper cost, worked on math and went to NIU for a degree in journalism-PR and minored in business. Whatever, you don't need to have a degree in communications/journalism/English to work in PR. How hard is it to write a press release? The second time, my ex and I had been going back and forth between Champaign and Charles(waste)to(w)n to see each other. I came back from break in which she hinted at meeting some other schmuck at the U of I and she decided it would be a great idea to be a p**** and hide behind her computer screen to break up with me after all of that time. What is even more retarded is that she did so right before her birthday and Christmas. So I was out $150 after buying her a massage in Urbana and some other s*** for Christmas.

It's weird how this occurred so close to the February date of 2 years ago. Weird, I feel more spirit towards this school than I have for any school. Here's to hoping I go to grad school there.

Is there a website that could explain to me how the NBA free agency system works? Mid-level exception, max-offer free agents are not terms that I have in my repertoire. EDIT: http://www.usatoday.com/sports/basketball/...-analysis_x.htm Nvm.

David Schuster on 670 just echoed that this Damon to the Sox notion is likely and echoed that Damon's wife doesn't want to live in Detroit.

Me: Strike 3, you're out. Coach: Are you kidding me? Me: What? Coach: Donate your salary to the house of the blind! Me: You're outta here! I don't babysit 40-year-old men who are balding! That and the triple play that I had the fortune of witnessing.

One of the issues that I had with my old relationship is that it was always about her (not just sexually). Mostly what made me angry was that I always had to be around her family. Always. It was never balanced, she never came over to my place to hang with my family. I enjoyed her parents and at times, her siblings, but ultimately I felt that my ex never felt comfortable around my family. Which is rather surprising because my family is easy to get along with. And when she and I were with her friends, it didn't dawn on me till later that we just didn't gel together. I loved her, but when she was around other people should really be a b****. I think it's safe to say I'm going to take off the love blinders next time and see the woman I'm dating in a more critical manner next time.

QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Feb 17, 2010 -> 06:23 AM) I have a question for everyone participating in this thread Everyone(I think) has a first love/puppy love crush/relationship, and it usually ends in total disaster due to the inability to deal with new emotions and feelings. How many of you had a first love that ended amicably, how many of you had a first love end in insane craziness that left you with some rather embarrassing memories, and how many of you are actually still with(married) your first love? Since I posed the question I will start. My first true love was with a girl I got with in my freshman year in college, she was a senior at my high school and ended up going to SIU with me. We dated for 3 years off and on, and when I decided that we werent meant for each other, I broke up with her for good. She got the last laugh, she dated the guy who lived in the apartment behind me, and basically drove me up the wall with insane jealousy(i know, i know, I broke up with her). It took about 6 months and a crazy 1 night stand to get her out of my mind and get my head right. Obviously my first love was a girl I met at the end of my sophomore year of high school in broadcasting class. Stayed with her all the way through high school and then went to college by her. When I visited colleges I was given the opportunity to get out of the relationship (as her hormones wanted to break up with me) and I chose to think with my penis instead of logic. (Note: Tell your son not to follow high school girlfriend. f***s things up majorly.) Ah well, should have gone to NIU or UIC and forgot about my media "dreams" long ago. Oh well, I'd rather make an impact in someone's life than sit around, talk or write about sports I don't care about the whole day. Anyway, I got her out of my head but it took me about a year to do so. QUOTE (SnB @ Feb 15, 2010 -> 05:51 PM) everyone goes through a "what the f*** was i thinking" year in college. Where once you make that realization, you have a ton more fun. No one worth a damn is the same person comign out of college as they were going into college. I know I went through the same thing you're going through at the end of my sophomore year. Doug, Stop over analyzing everything, drink more, go out as often as you can, and good things will happen. Strip club on Friday, party on Saturday.

QUOTE (SnB @ Feb 15, 2010 -> 02:31 PM) it's a more common story than you think. Most people go through something like that. Anyone care to chime in? What's a common part of my story? Just curious.

QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Feb 15, 2010 -> 11:14 AM) If you hadnt been telling us all that we were horrible alcoholics that were the scourge of the world in 2006 then maybe you would of listened to us a little bit My 19 year old mind was screwed from the start. I chose the wrong school for me and should have taken a year to man up by going to the community college and figuring out where exactly I wanted to go as well as learn some responsibility and people skills. Seriously, I was (yes was, I admit it) a f***ing reh-tard. Instead, I was high off my ass for a girl and chose a college that didn't suit me. Some days I wonder what would have happened if I accepted the break up during my senior year and just started working on my life from there. Even so, when was was at the initial institution, I became the slave of the media and never had time for myself or to discover who I was. So my views never changed until I was able to experience life and drop my "dream job" of covering stories I didn't give a crap about. Forgive the rant but that's exactly how I felt about the media, my grades slipped and I hated my life. I also needed to realize that there were more committed people out there to give their lives to a career they really wanted and that I wasn't the hottest thing on the face of the planet. But anyway.

QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Feb 15, 2010 -> 09:48 AM) Its all in your head Beast, you just think things through a bit too much. Relax a bit and have fun, it will come to you. Planning the whole event is just going to leave you upset when something doesnt happen the way you planned it or if something happens that you didnt plan for Holy s***, it's like de ja vu right now. If you all had been been echoing this s*** in my head in 2006, I would not be in the pickle that I am right now. That's what the little high school ex said to me senior year. Time to get drunk and get arrested this Friday. (Half kidding, of course.)

QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Feb 14, 2010 -> 04:49 PM) Beast, your "friend" is using high school tricks. If she is playing along, or also dating some guy in the military(which probably means nothing), then move along my friend. Agreed, well my "friend" is someone that I knew from the paper in high school and at my previous institution. I'm definitely moving along to the next one. On the discourse of playing up my "no game" deficiency, I think I might as well just do it. The situation is that we go to this club on Saturday nights and it's real loud. I'll try and approach the girl with confidence, and come up with some weird pickup line before saying, "I bet some guy has probably already given you this lame line...can I buy you a drink?" "Yeah, I'm lame. But I'd like to hear some more about you to off-set my lameness."

QUOTE (Milkman delivers @ Feb 14, 2010 -> 03:51 PM) There are so many jokes in there. Bring 'em on, woman. QUOTE (Heads22 @ Feb 14, 2010 -> 03:43 PM) If you have no game, one of the things you can do is try to play up your lack of game. You're kidding me, right?

Found out interesting news last night. A friend of mine apparently has been on the phone with the girl I've been talking to and has been making fun of me for having no game all of this time. Some friend he is and apparently she's in a relationship with a guy in the military. So, I spent the evening with my gay friend at Roundhead's and took down some jager and a Washington Apple drink. Weird times, and it looks like I'm back to the drawing board again as I'm passing over this floozy girl.

QUOTE (MHizzle85 @ Feb 12, 2010 -> 03:17 PM) IMO, I'd keep it casual. If you're doing something in Naperville, I wouldn't go for anywhere too fancy. I was thinking of Mongolian BBQ, not La Sorella Di Francesca.

So I'm going home for valentine's day this weekend because everyone else is leaving campus. There's a girl back home that I've been rather flirty with lately and we still don't know each other that well. What's appropriate, dinner, drinks and hanging out somewhere afterwards? I know very little about her but I wanted to get to know her better. Should I take her out? Where's a good place? I was thinking of downtown Naperville.

QUOTE (SoxFan1 @ Feb 10, 2010 -> 04:49 PM) You're age range is fine. The 17-19 year olds are fun if you want to hook up, but if you're looking for a relationship, the more intellectual/mature is the way to go. And the 2nd question honestly baffles me a bit. If you meet a girl and ask her for her email address...well s***, I dunno. I'm baffled. Get the phone number. ALWAYS. Time to stop with reading David DeAngelo's content. What a bastard. I'm definitely looking for a relationship so I'll stick with 20-24.

QUOTE (chwhtsox @ Feb 10, 2010 -> 10:07 AM) The thing you have to keep in mind is that you can't make it seem like you're going out of your way to be an ***hole. In your hypothetical situation it should go like this... Girl A is at the bar. you walk up. "bartender, can I get another one of what she's having" The bartender hands you the drink and you slide it over to her friend (girl B ) and walk away. I haven't had much success with that approach so I'll give you one that I have had success with. Girl A is at the bar. you walk up. "bartender, can I get another one of what she's having and a miller lite", give her the drink. find out her name and hang out with her a bit. I've had the most success "people watching", making fun of people in the bar. Nobody criticizes people like women do, they love it. The point is to get her laughing. She will see that you can be an ***hole but she'll keep talking to you because it's not directed at her. The first night isn't so much about being an ***hole as it is showing her your sense of humor. You want to show her a good time the first night. After that you wait 2 or 3 days before talking to her again, the ***hole in you should be natural. You're in no hurry to make plans and the general attitude is "whatever". An important note is that you don't want to be an ***hole everyday. You have to show her flashes of that guy she had fun with at the bar. It's a fine line that will take a lot of practice to master. The approach seems to work, I just haven't developed my personality yet. What I mean by that is I haven't really fleshed out yet who I want to be. I used to be a deep introvert who was opposed to social events and was satisfied with limited contacts, nights of video games and doing nothing but World of Warcraft and other bulls*** of the like. Now I am going out, trying to polish up on some social skills I missed out on my first year of college and am generally just wanting to have a good time and meet new people. That sounds like a good approach to take. I just need to remember to stay clear of the friend zone and get to know something concrete about her. Two questions -- I'm going to be 22 and I think the appropriate age range is 20-24. I don't go for 17-19 year olds. Is my age range a good target? What's more important on getting, the email or the phone number? QUOTE (Milkman delivers @ Feb 10, 2010 -> 10:10 AM) Honestly, I've found the best way to get in well with girls is to have some friends who are girls. The easiest thing is to be nice to your buddies' girlfriends, and they will pass this on to their friends. I'd have to say the vast majority of my girlfriends were picked up this way. Funny you mention that - the guys I have hung with generally don't have girlfriends and the one who has a girlfriend is friends with a bunch of b****es. Not to mention they are all the artsy type who latch onto their little clique of friends. QUOTE (KyYlE23 @ Feb 10, 2010 -> 10:36 AM) You are taking the conversation prior out of context Ross. The "play hard to get/be an ass" scenario was discussed about guys who already had established friend relationships with girls and were unsure about their standing with those girls. If you want to walk up and be a prick right off the bat at a bar, prepare to wipe a few drinks off your face. The concept of being cocky and funny is foreign to me. I'm the guy who gets too caught up in the friend zone. As far as Valentine's Day goes, if I was back home I would definitely treat my current female of interest out and indulge in a long evening of sex.

So let me get this straight. Hypothetically, I approach girl A at the bar and say "Hi, my name is Ross" and start up a conversation. When do you stop being nice and start being arrogant or rude to get said girl A to chase after you? Naturally, I would want to know what they are studying and what they are into with their life instead of just what they are doing later on and what they are drinking at the moment. When are we supposed to go up and after the initial point of contact start being a dick? Do we need to play hard to get as well? I'm not an arrogant and cocky guy and bars/clubs aren't really my scene, but I would like to succeed in this given situation, that's for sure. Enlighten me about nice guys "finishing last" and how those nice guys might want to approach those situations.

Damnit Badgers, I had more faith in you than that. f*** you, Illini...(I'm such an NU fan it's not even funny.)

Let's go Badgers!

20/25, missed Perez, Harris, Cotts, Marte and Vizcaino.

What should a single guy do on Valentine's Day? Bar? Go home and shag some one at home? Just curious.

QUOTE (SoxAce @ Feb 8, 2010 -> 04:24 PM) We've had multiple ones on this board.. You know that. Gotta be careful with the noob mods though. That's true, I know that. Didn't know who was a moderator on the board though. Seriesly. (I remember when someone used that in the thread and it was kind of silly.)

QUOTE (iamshack @ Feb 8, 2010 -> 03:58 PM) I think it was only a matter of time until this happened... Guys, relationship thread. If you want to create a sexuality thread or something, be my guest. But keep it somewhat respectable so if a woman chooses to read it she can't sue us. I would love to see what happens with a sexuality thread. Seriesly.

Is the taste of p**** better when you are hooking up or with someone you genuinely like and are with? That's the question I'm proposing.