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QUOTE (witesoxfan @ Jan 31, 2010 -> 11:18 PM) See, the thing is I don't know if she actually does want to pursue him. It's something I'm going to ask her about, probably on Wednesday at some point. She leaves town tomorrow at 3 PM and will get back at like 9 PM Tuesday night. What I am going to ask her are her true feelings about this guy and if she will truly commit to us. If I had a guess right now, I would say yes, but things are going well right now so there is a bias. And looking at the past 48 hours (from 11 PM Friday till 11 PM now), we've been with each other for 30 of those hours, and she would have had ample opportunities to hang out with said dude, but instead came to hang out with me. She did put the blame on me, and I have put the blame on myself. Maybe I'm trying to get water out of a dry well, but all I'd like to think I'm doing right now is putting myself in a position where if something like this comes up again, it would be impossible for the blame to fall on me, and I can counter otherwise. And I also don't believe you know exactly what you get into when you start dating someone...that's why I laugh when I see people getting engaged within the first year of dating. You don't see the real person until about 6 months into the relationship, as you get to know them and what you can and can't do, and that's the proving grounds. But yeah, it's been long enough that she should have said something a while ago about this and either had the stones to break up with me then or help me get on track. For starters, I do know the guy, and he's doing pretty well. Double major in Poli-Sci and English with intentions of going to law school. It's an 8,000 person school in a 11,000 person town...you have a general idea of who everyone is. I guess I don't exactly know what he does in his personal time, but he atleast talks a good game. I also think getting laid off would be a different scenario. In that case, I can start looking for new jobs and collect unemployment in the meantime. I'm not as worried about that. This I will do. To be fair, I'm glad she doesn't have this philosophy, because we would have been done long ago. If ever I felt I needed to break up with her, and she wanted to get back and give a relationship another chance, I'd give her one and that's it. And to be frank, she hasn't run back and forth between guys, as she's only been with me in the last 2 years or so. She has just had a crush, and that's the part I don't understand, and it's what I'm going to be asking her about on Wednesday. I'm basically going to go in there with two questions in mind - 'What are your true, true feelings about dude?' and 'Will you be 100% committed to this relationship?' I think I know the answer to the first question, and I don't think it will upset me. It's the last question that I want to know the answer to, because it's going to determine a lot about us. The other problem with that final paragraph is that I have stated that I want to remain good friends with her, but I'm slowly beginning to realize that if you get this deep into a relationship, and it splits up, it's hard to maintain the friendship aspect of it and it's almost impossible to in the short-term. Like I said, first true love and really my only true relationship, so I would only assume that once you officially and finally break up with someone, you have to hate them a little bit before you can even be friends with them again. ... Right now, it's going well, and it feels right. Whether that's because I want it to feel right for the convenience factor, or because it actually is, or some combination there in, or whatever, it feels right. I am going to have a good talk with her on Wednesday though. And thanks again for all the advice guys. Really appreciated. This should almost be its own thread at this point honestly, the idea of a relationship advice thread was thrown around because of this. at this point everyone has given you some suggestions based on a lot of personal experience, and ultimately it is all up to you how you handle it. I think the general point that everyone has made is that we dont want to see you hurt, because a lot of us have been in that place and it is horrible and sucks something awful. Just be strong and be careful(there is no way for you to be smart when your heart is involved )

Thanks ptatc, I knew he was blowing it out of proportion

I just hope she isnt leaning on you until she is ready for the other guy Blake. Some girls do that, and completely wreck the ex boyfriend. just be wary, thats all I can say

QUOTE (fathom @ Jan 31, 2010 -> 10:47 AM) Why can't we just say that all the Illinois-based teams are underachieving this season besides maybe Northwestern? totally agreed

JPIAA

QUOTE (iamshack @ Jan 31, 2010 -> 08:13 AM) So Martz has actually traveled to Nashville now to meet with Cutler. I really, really hope, should they hire him, that they push whatever buttons are necessary to get field turf installed at Soldier Field. Sun-Times seconded. especially the field turf part

QUOTE (iamshack @ Jan 31, 2010 -> 07:42 AM) The Rockies were quoted to have interest in OC...was that in a bench role? had to be that or second base, he wasnt going to take over for Tulo

Video: 'The Losers' Exclusive Look

QUOTE (GoSox05 @ Jan 29, 2010 -> 05:49 PM) Pro-life, ok. Gay, not ok. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/01/28/m...a_n_440773.html very interesting. the mancrunch ad is more than a bit much, but it is blatant hypocrisy and predjudice imo

Ha, Bryant McKinney kicked off the probowl squad for being a douche and partying his ass off instead of pretending to practice

Im not gonna lie, I came out of my crazy-bag when I broke up with my first love. I did stuff that I still think about and wonder what the f*** I was thinking. I dont know if you could have put a girl in front of me that would of caught my attention for at least a month afterwards. It was bad. Of course, immediately afterwards she pressed every button possible to make me go nuts, but still.....

*we're happy for you!*

I just watched "9" with my daughter. Top notch, good post-apocalyptic movie, especially since it is animated

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand back to Martz

QUOTE (Quinarvy @ Jan 30, 2010 -> 01:45 AM) ESPN just said something interesting. The Bulls are the first team (in NBA history) to win 5 straight games against 5 winning opponents. Come on, you are telling me the 72-10 bulls didnt pull that off? Or any of the teams that cleared 60 wins? That seems kind of out there

I watched a bit of Smackdown last night and Morrison cut the best promo I have ever seen him do towards McIntyre. It wasnt ground breaking or amazing by any means, but Morrison has always been a bit stiff on the mic, and this time he really followed through and said some interesting things that he wouldnt normally say. Of course, then he lost to McIntyre, but oh well

QUOTE (witesoxfan @ Jan 29, 2010 -> 09:18 PM) Just removed her from my contact list. When it feels safe, I'll probably put it back in, but it was really weird just seeing numbers rather than her name. I think I'm gonna go out tonight too. Maybe not get s***faced, but go out and have a few drinks and hang out. I'm not going to plan on it, but it would be pretty cool to be at the same place as her tonight with a different girl. I fully expect you to get s*** faced

QUOTE (witesoxfan @ Jan 29, 2010 -> 04:29 PM) Ha I wish. The relationship I've been in with a girl for just under 2 years has essentially come to an end. It's been hot and cold for about the past 6 months, but we've never really fought. It was mainly a matter of me being a huge POS for pretty much the entirety of the 2009 calendar year while she was actually being productive and becoming a legitimate member of society. So I had a bit of a revelation that I needed to step up and make changes, and thus far it's been great for 2010 - joined two very good business oriented organizations on campus, I'm looking for a job, and scouting out some internships. She told me last night that she wants to pursue another guy before she takes off to see if anything can bloom and the only reason she's really been hanging out with me is because she does still have feelings, but she wants to see me get on my feet more than anything, and she didn't want to hurt me. I told her that you have to hurt people as it's an inevitability in life, and I gave her the go ahead to try and get with this other guy. I don't know if he has feelings like that for her, but he may. Needless to say, I hope he doesn't, but it's out of my hands now. First true love too. Ouchers. Love sucks, there is no way around it. And the first is always the worst. You will hear a lot of cliches from people, just dont do anything stupid(drunk dialing, semi-stalking, causing tension when you are around her and mutual friends) and you will be fine.

http://sports.espn.go.com/mlb/news/story?id=4869274 . I know you havent looked at Arods health chart and everything that had to do with his hip surgery last year, but until I read this article I never read anything that indicated that his surgery was potentially career ending. Is Arod just making this out to be more than it really was, or was this a very serious surgery?

QUOTE (Balta1701 @ Jan 28, 2010 -> 07:49 PM) Salmons is earning a lot more. And I don't know if there's any team with that kind of cap space this year. Plus, him being able to opt in next year is not very attractive

Im amazed Cubano didnt break this. He is usually 2-3 weeks ahead of the pack

QUOTE (witesoxfan @ Jan 28, 2010 -> 01:12 PM) 4.01 ERA in 204 innings last year. I'd say that's pretty good. Also in the NL, one less batter per 9. I dunno, I always thought he should of been better than he was, maybe thats why I am down on him

Tippecanoe

QUOTE (Chisoxfn @ Jan 28, 2010 -> 11:27 AM) He'll put up pretty darn good numbers in San Diego. I thought he would in LA and Arizona too. Heck, LAA as well. It just hasnt happened