QUOTE (mreye @ Oct 22, 2008 -> 01:26 PM)
I disagree. With one account we don't fight over how much shoes and bowling balls cost because we have a solid relationship. When we married we became ONE.
That is exactly how I felt during my first marriage, we did become one.
Now I look at that and realize we didn't do everything together, and we didn't share a toothbrush. Sometimes she needed her time with friends, sometimes I needed mine (personal space). I think there is room for some independence, not in case of divorce, but sudden death. My ex-mother in law faced the death of her husband and had no clue what they had and where it was. She has no credit score because nothing was ever in her name. They were "one" as God intended, and that was her desire.
As I researched this over and over again money matters was a prime reason that couples divorced. You worked out something that works for you and that is perfect. Others find ways that work for them, and that is perfect. It's when there is a mismatch that issues develope.