My prayers are with everyone connected.
When I was in HS my girlfriend's neighbor, 12 years old, placed a family handgun to his head, and ended his own life. I will remember to this day the pain both parents felt. The mom was heaping the guilt on the father who bought the gun over the mom's objection. His sister was blaming herself because he said he was going to do it and she didn't believe him. Later it came out that he called three "friends" who all told him to go ahead. He had threatened this before and they were tired of his threats. He released himself from his pain, multiplied it 100 fold and heaped it on everyone else.
It is a cowardly, selfish thing to do.