I was just snooping aorund my 15 year old's computer and saw some of his posts at a gaming site. I'm wondering what some of the HS and college people think about parents boundaries. He's an excellent student, Eagle Scout, and athlete and there are basically no behavior problems. Just want to keep it that way.

 

BTW, he has a cool sig and avatar and in his sig are the lyrics

 

And in the end

The love you take

Is equal to the love you make.

 

I know I'm raising him right Abbey Road

Umm...I just pray to god I've deleted everything as far as history that needs to be deleted.

And if my parents ever saw this board I hope they don't figure out my user name. Too manys f***s, b****es, and damns.

 

I think a kid deserves their parents' trust until he blows it. If the kid is getting into trouble then the parents should check that the kid isn't doing something stupid.

 

For example, a kid at my school is a real idiot. He's in all the slow classes and he drinks and smokes. He is actually a nice kid though. That's not the point. He stole his parents' credit card and gambled away $2,500 or something like that playing online poker. Number 1, you really have to suck to blow that much, lol. Number 2, he is the type of kid to check on.

I think when I have kids I'm gonna check on my daughter so much more then my son.

 

For whatever reason I'd think I would be so much more worried cause so much more can happen to a girl then a guy. Simply because its not a big deal for a son to have sex in a sense (assuming he's smart about it) but for your daughter it be killer.

 

Its definately a double standard.

 

I also agree with what Dan says. I don't think my parents ever really had to bug me too much. I did my own thing and was pretty much self reliant, but I never was in trouble and would clue them into things when I needed to. Got good enough grades and never really got into trouble. Basically I've never had a curfew or anything like that, never needed one either.

I think when I have kids I'm gonna check on my daughter so much more then my son. 

 

For whatever reason I'd think I would be so much more worried cause so much more can happen to a girl then a guy.  Simply because its not a big deal for a son to have sex in a sense (assuming he's smart about it) but for your daughter it be killer. 

 

Its definately a double standard. 

 

I also agree with what Dan says. I don't think my parents ever really had to bug me too much.  I did my own thing and was pretty much self reliant, but I never was in trouble and would clue them into things when I needed to.  Got good enough grades and never really got into trouble.  Basically I've never had a curfew or anything like that, never needed one either.

I'm gonna beat Heads to the punch on this one...

 

First, in order to have kids jason, you have to have sex...

I was thinking that too Minny. Jason left it wide open. Just don't have him tell you stories about his one night stands lmao.

So we got some wise guys ehhhhh

So we got some wise guys ehhhhh

Never under-estimate me...

I'm not even suppose to be online right now

I hid my porn stash in a buried folder titled 'Homework'. Parents never suspected a thing, lol.

Sorry to hijack the thread. I really want to see how some parents feel about this topic.

 

My parents have given me both a lot of freedom and responsibility. They basically threw me into the waters and said go for it. I think this builds character, however, in other ways I have been spoiled. Of course living in an affluent suburb gives kids both the opportunity to take advantage of being spoiled or to just be total dbags about it.

I hid my porn stash in a buried folder titled 'Homework'.  Parents never suspected a thing, lol.

Spying on your kids is taking away privacy, however, with reason then they could spy.

 

I let my dad see some posts that I thought we interesting here, and he likes the board, says it is run well and to the point.

 

Now under suspicion of a kid drinking or smoking, I'd search if I was a parent.

 

I'm basically the middle child so I get some attention, not a load of it.

 

But its nice when your the quiet one who goes does his work and has fun on his own.

I don't agree with snooping if it is unwarranted, which sounds like the case in Tex's situation.

Nothing wrong with spying as long as they are living in their home.

If they don't like it they can move...

Also you can never be too careful now adays....

No matter how smart your kid is there is always some pervo or crazy smarter and more devious. I just don't trust the internet...

If they don't like it they can move...

You suggest a 12 year old should get emancipated and live on his own. :rolly

winhawkdoug is a big sex offender, he has been IM'ing little kids nation wide

Thats not funny.

Thats not funny.

That is why it is in green...

That is why it is in green...

It's just not something you joke about...

It's just not something you joke about...

Lighten up Jeckle.

 

Or else I'll start listing dead baby jokes.

I think a kid deserves their parents' trust until he blows it. If the kid is getting into trouble then the parents should check that the kid isn't doing something stupid.

 

For example, a kid at my school is a real idiot. He's in all the slow classes and he drinks and smokes. He is actually a nice kid though. That's not the point. He stole his parents' credit card and gambled away $2,500 or something like that playing online poker. Number 1, you really have to suck to blow that much, lol. Number 2, he is the type of kid to check on.

I'm with Dan 100 percent on this one.

An occassional snoop is necessary in my opinion. Those snoops can allow you to nip problems in the bud before they get out of hand. It's always important to know as much about your kid as possible, this allows you to parent accordingly. Hell, you never know, perhaps most of the time you'll walk away proud of your kid like Tex did.

You've got to keep tabs on your kids to a certain extent. And it's not because of a lack of trust, but due to the fact that you are more aware of the dangers and downfalls that are out there. I mean in both the real world and on the net. There are too many temptations out there that a hormonally active 15 year old kid can get sucked in by.

You've got to keep tabs on your kids to a certain extent.  And it's not because of a lack of trust, but due to the fact that you are more aware of the dangers and downfalls that are out there.  I mean in both the real world and on the net.  There are too many temptations out there that a hormonally active 15 year old kid can get sucked in by.

Yeah, like digging into Dad's bookmarks

 

BTW, he talks about the main site he visits all the time and thought he was cool when he crossed 500 posts. He really understood the point that post counts don't matter when he saw my total