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The other disconnect I see is many youth programs that require volunteers to be successful struggle to get parents to volunteer.

QUOTE (RockRaines @ Jul 20, 2015 -> 03:31 PM) Such a discrepancy between the outrage over "everyone gets a trophy and winning isnt important" and the behavior of the ridiculous amount of helicopter parents that exist today. Parents today are 1000 more involved in their kids lives and often are the main problem. And that's where I think I have a huge advantage over some coaches. All my years in sales taught me to work with people. And the more difficult to work with, the better. The parents want to be involved. So get them involved. Just channel it so the involvement is productive. Keep them informed. Coaches that lack confidence do not want to be challenged by parents so they keep things secret. That opens them up to guessing. I run towards upset parents instead of away. It doesn't happen often but I'll offer to grab a cup of coffee and discuss the issues. Almost always there is a lack of information on one side or the other. My team is composed of kids from a magnet high school on our campus and the students from the main campus. I teach at the main school and have little knowledge of what is going on at the other high school. Sometimes there are conflicts that need to be worked out. Also as a coach and teacher I always recognize that the child and the parent are two different people. I allow each to operate independently. But I have never (and I know it will happen some day) had a parent who I could not work with. By the way at my wife's private school they talked about curling parents. They lead the way sweeping problems out of their kid's way so they can just glide along.

QUOTE (greg775 @ Jul 20, 2015 -> 12:38 AM) Awesome, Tex. As coach do you have the authority to get mad at the kids if they are late or disruptive or do you have to let the little precious kiddies do whatever they want nowadays cause you have no right to bench them or make them run laps, etc? I would assume parents don't take kindly to coaches yelling at their kids. You have to build the trust with the parents first. You have to establish some credibility that you know what you are talking about. Then as long as you are looking out for the player's best interest parents will give you some leeway. High school sports are a little different but parents are parents. I've always sought out parent's input, so that heads off a lot of issues. I have also been able to back my decisions with some reasoning. I will also admit quickly when I goofed up and will make certain the players receive as much attention as I can send their way. As a coach all you really can do is put players in a position to be successful, the rest is up to them. I ended two players seasons early this year. When I was asked why, I explained it was a private matter between the players and myself. It didn't take long for everyone to know that one was because of grades thus reconfirming I was serious about academics. The second was I caught him cheating, again that reinforced a core value of the, well of everyone from the District to myself. Every parent I spoke to later told me if I every caught their child cheating to do the same, and the same with grades. I didn't need to make the kid an example. I treated him with respect. The coaches that have problems are the ones that have not earned any credibility and who yell and humiliate their players. If the coach comes off as a bully and not a teacher, parents will jump in the protect their child, and they should. Kids make errors, even professionals do. Coaches have to teach them how to bounce back, not stand there and yell. And specific to running laps, I really dislike coaches who use cardio exercises as punishment. Athletes should run to get better at their sport. My golf team hikes up a very steep hill with their bags at the end of every practice. Sometimes we will do two or three trips. I see other coaches using it as punishment. We walk and play very physically demanding courses. When we are hiking the hill, I'm right there with them carrying my bag, setting the example, getting their legs ready for 36 holes in one day tournaments. People need to be careful what they use as punishment. I've had students that tell me they hate reading because it was always a punishment by their parents. No TV you have to read a book. You're grounded, go clean your room. What are we teaching kids?

QUOTE (greg775 @ Jul 18, 2015 -> 09:59 PM) Yeah, but when somebody is splitting you open you don't want them saying, "Can you believe this fatass? He needs to get on the treadmill" etc. I don't know. It's better than why don't we f*** this up and put this guy out of his misery he is an organ donor . . . With me they might be saying, hey this tattoo on his ass says "exit only", he has no idea how wrong that tattoo it

I've been coaching kids in various venues for 25 years. Parents are the greatest help and the worst nightmares, sometimes at the same time. Great youth coaches get the parents buy in.

We're redoing our kitchen and man, what a pain. I'm glad my wife is dealing with most of it. The stove upgrade really caught me by surprise. We went from a guess that $700 or $800 would be a good budget to double that in a hurry. I can't believe all the advances and new features.

My first wife worked in radiology and I spent a lot of time around the ER. They had a unique, for internal consumption only, sense of humor. The first one I remember was perhaps the worst. "Pass the Bible, he's studying for the final". But when you are faced with serious cases all day long, grim reaper humor is perhaps one of the healthiest ways to cope. I don't think it ever affected the level of care a person received. They were so well trained and practiced that things kjust sort of kicked in and away they went. While non medical people would find this appalling, is it really much different than any other profession? Salespeople mock their customers at times. We mock each other at jobs. It's a part of many work places cultures. While your colon may be a special place to you, to the rest of the people in the room, you're just another asshole they have to deal with.

QUOTE (CanOfCorn @ Jun 29, 2015 -> 04:40 PM) I would say it HAS moved over to sports in a way. Not by being "ripped in the press and by fans," but with things like LeBron's "The Decision." You would NEVER have had that before this "generation." Is that a result of entertainment technology with billions of bytes of content to fill each moment?

QUOTE (Iwritecode @ Jun 23, 2015 -> 02:57 PM) I think the whole idea of participation awards making kids ok with losing is BS to begin with. I'm almost 40 and we had those awards back when I played. It's not a "new" thing. The thing is, kids aren't stupid. They know what those trophies are. They know that they aren't nearly as good as the first place trophies the other kids are walking around with. Often times we would get ice cream or some other treat after the game even if we lost but it didn't make us want to win any less. Honestly, I think the bigger problem is the kids that are getting pushed by their parents who are trying to re-live their failed sports aspirations through their kids. I have 3 girls and only the youngest had/has any interest in playing any kind of sport. She's not the worst, but she's not the best either. If she wants to continue to try and get better I'll support her but I'm not going to push her thinking she'll be the next Cat Osterman or Jennie Finch. Nicely said. Those trophys are souvenirs. Like a race t-shirt or a golf ball with the course logo. The only people that seem to be confused by this are the people who make a living pointing out problems that don't exist.

I have a couple students wearing Hawks gear around. I assumed they were just liking the fashion. Turns out they are real hockey fans. Pretty cool. They are hoping to get up to Chicago for a game next season now that they are out of school. They also like the Cubs. So the extra credit was balanced by the ScRubs thing.

QUOTE (LDF @ May 29, 2015 -> 05:14 PM) Chickens are not allowed to cross the road > Georgia You can be arrested or fined for harassing Bigfoot > Wash st. so far no one had ever been arrested for violating this laws, which are still in effect, If you are being serious, that is exactly my point. We drop laws like this because no one violates them. We keep laws that are being broken. The original point by Alpha was don't use the Waco crimes as a reason to add more gun laws, the existing laws didn't stop this crime. If we only added laws that would stop crime, we would wind up with laws about Big Foot and chickens crossing the road.

I did it everyday for years while working in Mexico.

Crumble the bacon and mix with the cream cheese. The key is getting the bacon really small. As I said it drastically reduces the bacon flavor, but keeps the jalapeno flavor, which we like.

QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ May 29, 2015 -> 03:52 PM) I believe this is 100% true. It is also a normal set up for most places. When that breaks down, you get a mess. Exactly. It seems that some people want an autocratic last century management philosophy. That hasn't been the best practice for decades.

We're assuming that people want FIFA to clean up and that the corruption doesn't go further.

QUOTE (RockRaines @ May 26, 2015 -> 12:11 PM) Literally one of the reasons I joined a private club. I like to play fast whenever I want. The private club experience is much different. But even on weekends most clubs have longer than normal pace of play. Our club was slow on the weekends because of all the fivesomes playing wolf. But brutal was the late morning tee times playing in 4:45 - 5:00 hours. Earlier times could be played quicker. We were certain to call early to book a time around 7:30 - 8:00. What I really miss is the hanging around the practice area at lunch and after work. Always people I know, always a putting or pitching game to get in. $10 knock out was my favorite.

And we do realize that this is all speculation.

QUOTE (southsider2k5 @ May 29, 2015 -> 02:37 PM) What you are saying makes no sense. One time you are saying that there is no chain of command. But when the general manager goes to the coach, who works for him, and tells him to do something, he is meddling? Same with the White Sox. Rick Hahn does the leg work. Final approval for moves goes through the chain of command into Kenny and then finally, and if necessary, Jerry. Certain guys are obviously responsible for certain things. Do you honestly think that Jerry or Kenny are the ones making out line ups? But, when there is a bigger problem with the performance, such as with the Bulls and Thibs playing guys too many minutes, then the chain of command kicks in and tells him to knock if off. I am not sure where you have worked in the past that you have full autonomy over everything, but that is pretty much the textbook definition of chain of command. Agreed. I would add one thing you can delegate authority but not responsibility.

QUOTE (chitownsportsfan @ May 29, 2015 -> 12:58 PM) The question isn't that at all. The question is "who has final say"? I guarantee you that it's not Jed Hoyer. Hoyer works the phones I'm sure and does other duties but the executive at the top is Epstein. It's a traditional org chart. The Sox have more of a triangle it seems at the top with JR, Hahn and KW all making inputs. That isn't going to work. You are talking in part one about who makes the decision. In part two you are saying who has input input. Do you think that Hoyer doesn't have input? Do you think that JR, Hahn, and KW split the decision making, have a vote,

QUOTE (Jenksismyb**** @ May 29, 2015 -> 10:27 AM) I gave you the answer: http://www.soxtalk.com/forums/index.php?s=...t&p=3168610 You're ignoring the reason these laws are being proposed (prevention of mass shootings) and that we're not talking about all laws generally, we're talking about specific laws that are add-on's to other existing laws. You are creating a premise that is how these laws were designed to work. You are stating this is why the laws were proposed. We all know that laws do not prevent a crime. If we used that criteria we wouldn't have any laws. Again, I ask. Name one law in the history of laws that prevented crimes from being committed? The reason we have laws is to determine the punishment. In the end, that is all they do.

QUOTE (LDF @ May 29, 2015 -> 10:30 AM) again, you are trying to take an incident and mold it for an agenda you are trying to make. i really can't see it. Russia during the height of the cold war. they, Russia who has extremely tough law on crime and criminals still had that illegal activity and criminals. bottom line pls don't take the waco incident to paint it all in one color. b/c there will always be an illegal side of society. i am thru here. To be clear Alpha began this segment by stating by making a statement that the laws didn't work. Again, we all agree that criminals break laws. Why is that any proof that the laws didn't work?

QUOTE (Alpha Dog @ May 29, 2015 -> 08:35 AM) Because I never said the laws were or were not working. I said that the laws they wanted would not have worked there, so it was a bad example of the need for the law. Antis INSIST that the laws will PREVENT things from happening. They INSIST that the laws they want would have prevented the Waco incident. I say that they are wrong. The laws may help them add some jail time to them after they are caught, but they will NOT STOP THEM from happening. My point is exactly that criminals break laws and that no law will prevent them from doing what they want to do. Antis seem to think otherwise and use bad examples, like Waco, to back their claim. How much more clear can I make that for you? I agree. All the laws that were broken in Waco did not prevent any crimes. The clear part that I keep asking you is the next step. Because laws will not stop a criminal, what do you want to do about the laws?

QUOTE (Alpha Dog @ May 28, 2015 -> 03:02 PM) tex, not going there. I didn't say that the law would or would not work. I said using the Waco incident to advocate for the laws, where it would not have made a difference, was stupid. We've been over that more than once and you keep trying to change the goalposts. That's like saying that since a car slid off the road during snowy weather that it proves we need to have mandatory third tail lights. Again, how do you judge if a law is making a difference? It's a damn simple question that you keep avoiding. The only thing you say is well criminals broke the law. Well again, criminals break laws all the time, it doesn't mean the laws aren't working. You're only point is criminals break laws. So unless you can finally explain how you come to the conclusion that the laws aren't working, I'll assume you don't want to answer the question.

QUOTE (LDF @ May 28, 2015 -> 02:32 PM) you are just arbitrarily saying that .......... and that is not a realistic idea. the ability of getting, in this case weapons, has nothing to do with laws of waco or tx. many of these weapons were brought to the fight. the location was nothing of an incidental location. Not arbitrary at all. It was thought out and specifically included, not by random chance. So again, what conclusion should we make about laws in respect to Waco? People keep saying "see the laws didn't work". OK, if you say the laws didn't work why can't anyone state how they would judge a law that does work? No one has been able to answer that. They just create a premise that since criminals broke they law, the law isn't working.

I make those a few different ways. What has become our favorite is to make a bacon/cream cheese filling and stuffing them and grilling them in a jalapeno rack.I tried different styles of bacon, but the peppered is my favorite. It becomes less bacon and more jalapeno. I usually remove the seeds and veins to lighted up the heat.