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QUOTE (SoxAce @ Apr 4, 2017 -> 07:15 AM)
... the f***?! Pass her this way son. :lol:

 

Lol, we're going on date #2 on Thursday. She's definitely in to me, which is cool. Also, found out she has lost 70 pounds since 2011. Could be a reason for the wide hips. Maybe it's harder to lose weight there for her? It's just something I'll have to get used to as most of the girls I'm with happen to be small.

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Date #2 was tonight. She's definitely bigger all around than I noticed on the first date. So her hips aren't as out of proportion as I thought, considering the rest of her is bigger than I thought.

 

She's still really cool though, so I'll keep seeing her and hanging out. We shall see when it comes to having sex for the first time whether or not I can be in to a big girl or not. I've always been with small (short) girls.

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QUOTE (ChiliIrishHammock24 @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 12:28 AM)
Date #2 was tonight. She's definitely bigger all around than I noticed on the first date. So her hips aren't as out of proportion as I thought, considering the rest of her is bigger than I thought.

 

She's still really cool though, so I'll keep seeing her and hanging out. We shall see when it comes to having sex for the first time whether or not I can be in to a big girl or not. I've always been with small (short) girls.

 

Think less and do more.

 

That is all young buck.

 

Good luck.

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If you're going to be critical of her size on a regular basis instead of accepting her, then you shouldn't even bother dating her, let alone attempt a sexual relationship with her.

 

 

 

 

 

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QUOTE (ChiliIrishHammock24 @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 12:28 AM)
Date #2 was tonight. She's definitely bigger all around than I noticed on the first date. So her hips aren't as out of proportion as I thought, considering the rest of her is bigger than I thought.

 

She's still really cool though, so I'll keep seeing her and hanging out. We shall see when it comes to having sex for the first time whether or not I can be in to a big girl or not. I've always been with small (short) girls.

 

Sounds like you'll need to pound a few IPA's before going all the way with her.

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QUOTE (knightni @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 06:39 AM)
If you're going to be critical of her size on a regular basis instead of accepting her, then you shouldn't even bother dating her, let alone attempt a sexual relationship with her.

 

I agree. She might think it's going somewhere so if he keeps leading her on, has sex, and then says he just wants be friends, she probably won't want to be friends.

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QUOTE (raBBit @ Mar 30, 2017 -> 11:52 PM)
I disagree. Or at the least, I think that's changing and has changed. I am not sure how old you are but I know you're older than me. But as a millennial, I think it has changed because of social media and yoga pants among other things.

 

The whole instagram thing and women's clothing style changes is all catered towards girls' butts. I remember when I was a freshman in high school (I am pretty young) and girls started wearing yoga pants to school and it was mind-blowing for the guys. Once a few girls started wearing them everyone did. Guys would gossip about girls when they were wearing yoga pants. I remember a friend coming up to me and saying, "Did you see Victoria?" and I said no and he said, "She's wearing those tight black elastic-y pants today. You should see her butt." We didn't even know they were called yoga pants. Just like the girls with great boobs tend to show cleavage, the girls with the great butts were more likely to wear yoga pants. Yoga pants changed everything for white people.

 

By the time I was senior, not only were guys (all guys, black guys, white guys, etc.) obsessed with butts, but girls who started working out to better their bodies were showing their butts in progress pictures just as often as they would show stomach. I am sure this is weird for the older guys to hear but when I was first on Myspace, Xanga, Facebook (7th-9th grade) girls would edit their picture to make their boobs bigger. When I got older, the girls would edit the pictures to bring in their sides and extenuate their butts. There are plenty of girls who brag about doing squats.

 

If I were to generalize white dudes I'd say they were definitely late to the butt craze but they're probably split at this point. Of course it's not as likely for a white dude to be into ass as a black guy, but to your point, white dudes, in general, lean toward skinnier figures where black dudes gravitate towards thicker girls. Nobody would argue you on that. In the black community, asses are essential to the "dream girl." In the white community, it's always about blonde girls. Who cares about hair color.

 

I just don't get the guys who have a "type." Whether it's looks or personality, there are so many guys that just keep ending up with a girl who is just like the girl before them. With me it has always been, I am attracted to a girl to some varying extent, I end up talking to her and if we have chemistry, I start to notice all the good things about her.

I've never seen such an extensive analysis on this subject. Lol.

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QUOTE (Yoda @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 06:54 AM)
Sounds like you'll need to pound a few IPA's before going all the way with her.

 

That would be true if he's out on the prowl but a woman he's trying to date? That's a catastrophe waiting to happen... "Hey, you're hips are kinda bigggg ya know, *hic* I've never been with a big girl in my life bwhahahhaha this should be fun..."

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QUOTE (knightni @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 06:39 AM)
If you're going to be critical of her size on a regular basis instead of accepting her, then you shouldn't even bother dating her, let alone attempt a sexual relationship with her.

 

Yeah, this is a real knowledge drop. Good post.

 

If you want to get it in, you should just tell her such and not be use her for a big girl experience.

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QUOTE (KagakuOtoko @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 09:20 AM)
Yeah, this is a real knowledge drop. Good post.

 

If you want to get it in, you should just tell her such and not be use her for a big girl experience.

 

Especially if he's saying they could be friends if he doesn't want to date her.

Edited by soxfan2014

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I think we can all agree we're interested in seeing the outcome of Date #3.

 

There's currently 11 Guests just reading this topic...

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QUOTE (Yoda @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 10:17 AM)
I think we can all agree we're interested in seeing the outcome of Date #3.

 

There's currently 11 Guests just reading this topic...

 

LMAO

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QUOTE (Yoda @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 10:17 AM)
I think we can all agree we're interested in seeing the outcome of Date #3.

 

There's currently 11 Guests just reading this topic...

What would you say the odds are on them hooking up?

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QUOTE (ChiSoxFanMike @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 10:39 AM)
What would you say the odds are on them hooking up?

 

You never hear about a 4th date because after the 3rd you don't refer to your meetups anymore as "dates."

The 3rd date usually ends up like this:

 

A. Go out for dinner one more time and then invite her over to your place.

OR

B. You're not going anywhere after dinner and will remain in the friend zone thus not wanting to pursue anything more w/ that person as far as social meet-ups.

 

If A. goes well Netflix and Chill will be a daily occurrence and they'll end up looking forward to seeing each other on a daily basis. If A. doesn't go very well, then that's it. The attempt was made and hey at least he won't be asking "what if."

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QUOTE (Yoda @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 11:01 AM)
You never hear about a 4th date because after the 3rd you don't refer to your meetups anymore as "dates."

The 3rd date usually ends up like this:

 

A. Go out for dinner one more time and then invite her over to your place.

OR

B. You're not going anywhere after dinner and will remain in the friend zone thus not wanting to pursue anything more w/ that person as far as social meet-ups.

 

If A. goes well Netflix and Chill will be a daily occurrence and they'll end up looking forward to seeing each other on a daily basis. If A. doesn't go very well, then that's it. The attempt was made and hey at least he won't be asking "what if."

This seems like pretty solid life advice. Thanks. :)

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QUOTE (soxfan2014 @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 10:56 AM)
I'm going to say 3:1. I'm going 75% chance.

 

You pulled that number out of your ass.

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QUOTE (soxfan2014 @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 10:56 AM)
I'm going to say 3:1. I'm going 75% chance.

 

Lol 0% chance. I am going to her place for a bonfire and to watch some Louis CK with her best friend and her girlfriend.

 

I slow play things, I have no intentions of hooking up for a few weeks, minimum. I always joke with her that our first kiss (nope, I haven't even tried) won't be until June. I enjoy having the upper hand when it comes to this stuff early on because if we start dating and hooking up, I know I'll be looking for BJs on the regular. ;) :lol:

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QUOTE (knightni @ Apr 7, 2017 -> 06:39 AM)
If you're going to be critical of her size on a regular basis instead of accepting her, then you shouldn't even bother dating her, let alone attempt a sexual relationship with her.

 

Well, this is an "advice" thread, so I'm not necessarily going to harp on how every other aspect of her is great and she's a blast to be around. I could talk to her all day long, she busts my balls, she's funny, she's real pretty, she's independent and self-reliant, she's got a really strong family (borderline too close w/ her mom, but that's a possible future discussion on here), a job that I tend to seek out in a partner (teacher), and other cool stuff. My original point and continued point is just wondering if it's possible for me to be as attracted to her body as I am her mind. I've never really been in this situation before and I am hoping it's possible, and I think it can be.

 

I don't see this thread as a "let me brag about my partner", but and more like "help me figure out this issue". I would expect most topics in this thread to be either negative or controversial in nature.

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QUOTE (ChiliIrishHammock24 @ Apr 8, 2017 -> 02:11 AM)
Well, this is an "advice" thread, so I'm not necessarily going to harp on how every other aspect of her is great and she's a blast to be around. I could talk to her all day long, she busts my balls, she's funny, she's real pretty, she's independent and self-reliant, she's got a really strong family (borderline too close w/ her mom, but that's a possible future discussion on here), a job that I tend to seek out in a partner (teacher), and other cool stuff. My original point and continued point is just wondering if it's possible for me to be as attracted to her body as I am her mind. I've never really been in this situation before and I am hoping it's possible, and I think it can be.

 

I don't see this thread as a "let me brag about my partner", but and more like "help me figure out this issue". I would expect most topics in this thread to be either negative or controversial in nature.

Stop focusing on her hips and they won't be a problem dude. Sounds like the young lady has alot going for her so try to look at the overall package and not just one aspect of it.

 

I do get what your saying about how you're used to a certain build in the women you've dated. I've always preferred the smaller ones myself. ;)

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QUOTE (ChiliIrishHammock24 @ Apr 10, 2017 -> 01:37 AM)
For all of you that are on the edge of your seats wondering..... there will be no 4th date.

 

Will you guys be friends at least?

 

A couple of years ago I was head over heels with this girl who was not looking for a relationship so we ended up just being friends. Went to a couple of Sox games, concerts, and all that but remained just friends. Fast forward to today and I'm living a happy life with my gf (whom I met online a little less than 2 years ago) and our 4 month old baby and let me tell you, things do happen for a reason. I wouldn't have it any other way.

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QUOTE (ChiliIrishHammock24 @ Apr 10, 2017 -> 01:37 AM)
For all of you that are on the edge of your seats wondering..... there will be no 4th date.

 

So we get pics now, right?

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QUOTE (Yoda @ Apr 10, 2017 -> 07:42 AM)
Will you guys be friends at least?

 

A couple of years ago I was head over heels with this girl who was not looking for a relationship so we ended up just being friends. Went to a couple of Sox games, concerts, and all that but remained just friends. Fast forward to today and I'm living a happy life with my gf (whom I met online a little less than 2 years ago) and our 4 month old baby and let me tell you, things do happen for a reason. I wouldn't have it any other way.

 

Are you trying to say it's the same girl? Lol, you never really said.

 

But I honestly hope we will be friends after this. There is no 4th date because I've decided I don't want one. Her body is still on my mind too much, but there were also some things that were talked about that really made me think this would never work out. But none of those things would turn me off of being friends with her, so I am hoping she feels the same way and can just be friends.

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QUOTE (ChiliIrishHammock24 @ Apr 11, 2017 -> 06:15 AM)
Are you trying to say it's the same girl? Lol, you never really said.

 

But I honestly hope we will be friends after this. There is no 4th date because I've decided I don't want one. Her body is still on my mind too much, but there were also some things that were talked about that really made me think this would never work out. But none of those things would turn me off of being friends with her, so I am hoping she feels the same way and can just be friends.

She must be really big. Never have we heard more about hips. Not ripping you, mostly kidding, but is she immense?

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