It doesnt matter to me what gender your candidate is.
And I guess the difference between you and I, is that whatever happened in the last election is the past. If Sanders won the Democratic nomination, Id support him and I would hope that others who may not believe he is their "best" champion, would understand that he is a far "better" champion than the other side. The next Presidential election is going to come down to a few states. The candidate I feel is best able to win those states is the one Id likely go with. At certain times in history ends have to justify the means. I hope that our country can return to some bipartisan normalcy, but until that day, I will play to win.
Youre right I am privileged, but you would be incorrect in your belief that I cannot understand a run in with police. I have had plenty, I have been the target of fake police nonsense that resulted in something far worse than an hour bad experience. I help people who are being arrested while they are being arrested. I get emergency phone calls while the police are there, and one time I actually believed I was going to be on the phone when someone was going to be shot by the police, while I was screaming at them to calm down. Maybe thats not good enough, maybe my "privileged position" makes me incapable of determining a strategy for permanent change.
But you also have to be a realist. While I would love to imagine a day where I wake up and everyone is cool to everyone else, that just is not going to happen in my lifetime. Ive had clients ask me to "jew" down the side and other equally ignorant things. But youre right, I can never put myself in anyone elses shoes, just like they could never put themselves in mine. All I can say is, if you want any change, you need to win. And maybe it will come faster than you thought, but most of the time it will be slower. Because the reality is at this point its the future generations that I fight for. I dont want them to look back and think that some previous time was the golden ages, I want them to believe that they are living in them.