Zero community spread, like the countries that have this under control, is where you stop. Cuomo is an example of an incompetent governor who did very little and at times actively undermined an appropriate response.
I can't take care of my family without them being exposed to a deadly virus right now if we leave our house. What you do impacts your community around you when it comes to contagious diseases. This is why relying on "I take care of my family, you take care of yours" has lead to 270,000 dead Americans is less than a year, with hundreds of thousands more to come. It's why millions more are slipping into poverty. It's an approach completely doomed to failure.
Some people will have to work, of course. Especially people doing COVID response, or providing (actually) essential services. But right now, restaurants and bars should be shut down, and we shouldn't be dooming their employees and owners to destitution for situations far beyond their individual control. The same goes for many other sectors of the economy.
Countries that have limited the human and economic damage took strong measures. Countries that are suffering roiling health crises and substantial economic impact didn't. Both categories include autocracies, single-party "democracies," and actual democratic states. I know which option I'd take.
Much of our economy is service sector or retail and it's in-person. Tens of millions can't stay home if they want to pay the rent and put food on the table. Absent a strong federal response including financial support, a whole lot of people couldn't do the right thing and stay home until the virus was squashed. They were put in a position to make the least bad choice of bad choices. That's what failure to have sufficient public health crisis response gets you. That, and hundreds of thousands of deaths.
edit: basically just going in circles at this point, so bottom line, yes we absolutely should have taken strict lockdown measures that were actually enforced from the start and we'd all be much better off and a couple hundred thousand people wouldn't be dead right now.